Your husband doesn't like sex? This could be one of the most surprising marriage problems that you could experience.
You never dreamed that your husband would have what appears to be a decreased sex drive.
That may be the case, but actually, he may only appear not to like sex.
The problems may even be quite confusing to him.
Here are six reasons why it may be that your husband doesn't like sex (or that he appears not to like physical intimacy).
1.
Complaints (Real or Perceived) Turn Him Off Your perceived complaints may turn him off.
One of his greatest needs is to be admired and respected by you.
If you are perhaps a little careless in what you say around him, he may feel that your comments are complaints, or perhaps you actually have complained about certain things.
He may desire respect and peace, but he ends up with complaints and turmoil.
2.
Depression Affects His Life If your husband experiences depression, it may affect other areas of his life.
These may actually be causes that he may not relate to himself.
Then he becomes embarrassed because his desire is less than it once was, and he doesn't understand why.
Then when this is recognized as a problem in the marriage, he may become even more depressed.
This may make him appear to have a decreased sex drive.
3.
Stress Affects His Life If he experiences stress outside the marriage, it may affect all kinds of areas of his life.
He may have trouble handling this because he often is a master at compartmentalizing his life.
When emotional stress from one particular area of his life becomes something that he cannot get out of his mind, he may not be able to focus in some of the other areas.
Then he may not like to try in the physical intimacy area because he does not like to be perceived as a failure.
4.
An Affair, or Thought of an Affair, Consumes His Mind This is a serious situation beyond the other causes we are looking at here.
If he is having an affair, he is likely to be covering it up.
Confronting him may bring honesty, but in many cases it will simply cause him to lie about what is going on.
Don't be too naive, but make sure you have real proof before you jump to conclusions too.
This would be a case where he does not have a decreased sex drive.
5.
Fear of not satisfying you If he has a fear of not being able to satisfy you, he may be reluctant to engage in physical intimacy because he does not like to fail.
He also is devastated by the thought of being a disappointment to you.
He desires your admiration and respect, but he has a fear of failure.
This may explain why it appears that your husband doesn't like sex.
6.
Fear of Having More Children He may be afraid that the family size will increase, and that he will not be able to provide in a way that he would like to do so.
He may not be conscious of this affecting his desire.
This may be another reason why it seems that your husband doesn't like sex.
What can you do? Be understanding.
Be supportive.
Build him up.
Have frank discussions about depression and stress.
Try to get the lines of communication open.