What is a bad marriage? Abuse in a marriage will definitely make it a bad marriage, whether verbal, emotional, and definitely physical abuse.
Adultery, drug addictions, alcohol addiction, lying spouse, and criminal personalities make for bad marriages.
There are so many reasons that men and women stay in these marriages.
If the marriage is truly full of irreconcilable differences, is it the right thing to do to stay? Why do people stay in bad marriages? Well some of the reasons are that they really love their spouse and can't bear to live without them under any circumstances.
Some people fear they will never meet anyone new, they are insecure both emotionally and financially, and they stay because of children or even grandchildren.
Religious views can keep people in a these terrible marriage.
Reputation of the stigma of divorce will keep some folks put.
Fear of the unknown, sexual STDs that they live with, pregnancy, old age, no job skills, history, too much history in the marriage, the list goes on and on.
I've known elderly people who stayed in bad marriages all of their lives, and in the latter days things finally calm down.
Was it worth it? Only they know for sure.
There are people of all ages who stay in these kind of marriages.
Someone has to be the person who sacrifices their dignity and sanity though.
When you are the spouse who is the innocent victim in a bad marriage, you have to be the strong person to stay.
Emotionally you will be drained, and it affects your physical well being also from stress.
Living in a bad marriage is a torturous way to live.
Always walking on eggshells around the other person, having trust issues, living a fake life, wishing you weren't in that situation, hoping the other person will truly change, putting on a happy face around other people, and at work.
I see people I am close to today living this way and I personally cringe.
Having been in a horrible marriage for 14 years that I finally got out of,, I have no tolerance for these behaviors any longer.
If you can't have a loving, trusting relationship, why stay together? I know you have to work at a marriage relationship, but some spouses take advantage of this concept.
They think they can get by with anything if the other person tolerates them, or will not leave.
Well, each individual in each relationship have to decide for themselves if they can tolerate trying to make a bad relationship work.
I do encourage those who are in an abusive relationship to get out before it is too late though.
Always!