Conformity is a genuine illusion.
If it was not, then all human beings would have the same needs and wants even at the most basic and complex levels.
The reality of the situation is that, we all are individuals and originality is the spice of life.
Sure before communications you have to consider your own individuality before even considering getting into a relationship.
You must figure out what you want to give and what you want to get, in that order.
Until you figure those basics out, nothing else is necessary, even sex.
So, consider this argument for mastering the fundamentals and basics of a relationship and in all things.
All things start out and end up with (if you succeed at them) the fundamentals and the basics.
If everything depended on complexity, then we would have chaos, because we have no logical basis for what is being done or no basic concepts.
Sure, I could give advice and not "break it down first", but i would be doing you the ultimate disservice, like the "established relationship gurus" usually do with their "high and mighty" advice that "sounds" complex, interesting and good, but is really bad because it does not start out mastering the basics.
A relationship starts with the self and the use of the mind to live and relate.
That is the basis of all relationships, including the one to self and all others.
Now to really get started with this article, because if I get too basic or dwell too much on the starting concepts, you will get bored after you understand, so I will work up to the complex things as I write this article.
Love and hate are feelings as well as thoughts and not solely both as most "relationship authorities" promulgate.
Feelings are not crimes or virtues, only actions upon feelings are crimes and virtues.
Logically writing, this is the honest reality of the situation.
If it were not the honest reality of the situation, then we would be so unworkable as to not have a single feeling or thought that does not work or get acted upon without fear.
Thoughts, feelings then actions are cause and not effects.
Effects always happen after the cause is set, meaning, only an effect is a virtue or vice, not a cause that has not been enacted to create an effect.
In essence, what I am saying here is that we must delineate what is from what is not in all things, including relationships.
So I say again, what I said at the beginning of this article to end it: Conformity is an illusion, if it was not, then all human beings would have the same needs and wants at the most basic and complex levels.
Think deeply about this reality, although the basics are the same, everything leads to different places and fields that are necessary to be led to in a complex sense.
"It takes all kinds" is the secret to successful relation and patience, understanding and tolerance undergird that concept and the successful working of this concept does work for good in every genuine way and sense, because of the fact that patience, understanding and tolerance does exist this way on the most complex levels, yet the basic fundamentals are still the same.
So, once you figure out what you want to give and what to get, in that order, do what you want and need to, to achieve your relationship goals.
That simple, that concise.