Marriage is an amazing bond between two people.
The lack of intimacy in marriage, though, can be a hurdle that many relationships never recover from even if the two people end up staying together.
Is it common? You bet.
How many of your conversations with your personal friends confirm that intimacy in the bedroom has become stale, intermittent or nonexistent.
These days with all the pressures of work, making money, kids and overall family demands, intimacy seems to be the last thing on peoples mind.
While intimacy may account for only 10% of a relationship, when it's lacking, it easily accounts for 90% of the problems in a relationship.
Typically, a lack of communication about the issue becomes a giant wall that neither partner are willing to address.
Over time, the lack of intimacy and communication can turn into resentment by one or both parties.
When this happens either the husband and wife need to sit down and open up about the issues surrounding the lack of intimacy or they need to agree to get counseling to open up dialogue about the issue.
While many things can contribute to the lack of intimacy, it's critical to identify what the underlying issues are and to try to make adjustments if intimacy is going to again become part of the relationship.
Is it simply a lack of time? Too many demands with the kids? Do you still feel that you can be intimate with your spouse and if not, why not? This is where marriage counseling can become hugely beneficial as the root issue has to be addressed or nothing will be solved long term.
Intimacy can unquestionably be restored, but it takes work.
Bringing romance back into the relationship through the little things you do and say to your lover can make all the difference.
So often in a relationship that's suffering, both parties muddle through every day not even realizing that they are saying things or doing things that are subtly sending their spouse messages about their dissatisfaction in the relationship.
When a woman doesn't feel loved or a man doesn't feel needed or valuable, their actions, emotions and unspoken words will tell the story and any sensitive person will pick up these negative emotions and vibrations.
If it isn't dealt with, it will manifest into bigger and bigger issues over time.
If you're experiencing a lack of intimacy in your relationship there's one message to pass along that will help immediately.
Address it.
Open up about it.
Talk about it.
Take action before it becomes the invisible elephant in your marriage.
If you do this and you begin taking small steps to let your lover know how much you love them, how much you appreciate them and how important they are to you, you'll be well on your way to bringing intimacy back into the bedroom on a regular basis.