Every caring parent desire the best for their children.
However, annoying children behaviour can evolve into a routine of tantrums, defiance and screams where parents end working around the clock to try and bring the situation under control and in most cases the effort ends in vain.
Surely, this is not an idea of a happy family as it leaves every body stressed up and the parents with very less time to themselves.
The child's behaviour has the potential to bring about turmoil to a once happy family.
When faced with challenges of difficult child behaviour, some parents just lose it and fall in the trap of behaving like the very children they need to guide, support and protect.
Feeling annoyed and angry is a natural instinct but if we can pause for a while and think about it, bad children behaviour can be stopped and transformed.
Raising children is an enjoyable gift that comes naturally, but raising children with difficult behaviour requires that the parent has some skills set, lack of which can render child nurturing an overwhelming task for parents until they can learn to understand their children behaviour especially the "why" part of the difficulty.
Finding out the reason for children to behave in an unacceptable manner must be the number 1 priority for every caring parent who wants to transform their child behaviour.
But first, the parent needs to take a reality check of their own behaviour before addressing their child's and this should be a simple process really because you know your strengths and weaknesses.
What is important is to be truthful and passionate.
Your child misbehaviour could be a signal of;

• I need help to work this out
• I am stressed
• I need affection
• I need food
• I am ill
• Please stop shouting at me
• Help me make sense of this

Let's put stress aside and be honest, surely, some nagging and screaming may be triggered by legitimacy and urgency.
Committing a little attention to understand your child would solve a lot of problems.
Please realise and accept that the child is in a learning process that we've already been through as adults.
Yes, we are learning all the time but we should be going forward.
Consider the following as we take a brief reality check: Are you a good behaviour role model for your child?

• Do you treat your child or people around your child with respect?
• Do you shout at your child or people around your child?
• Do you bribe your child to behave well?
• Do you have time to play with your child?
• Do you punish your child in whatever form?
• Do you hit or slap your child?

It is unbelievable how anger can sometimes make us lose our senses and entrap us to get engaged in a battle of minds, words and even physique with helpless children, who in reality need our support to address the root cause of their failing behaviour.
Listen, your child's difficult behaviour can change, but only if you as an adult can change your perception and attitude.
Keep listening, if you do not change you risk long term unhappiness for both you and the child.
However, take note that every child is unique and as such whilst one method of parenting is suitable for one family, it does not necessarily mean it will suit your family.
You may not understand the depth of the problem, but surely you know exactly what you are both going through.
Or at least you can anticipate what the child is going through, we've all been children.
Furthermore, provided you are equipped with the skills of what to look for when investigating the real source of your child's behaviour, you are best suited to identify the problem with high accuracy.
What is important here is to pinpoint the root cause of the unwanted behaviour, then and only then can you formulate or adapt to parenting strategies that will transform your child's difficult behaviour.
I truly do not think there is any one who could possibly object to the following logic.

• knowing exactly what you have to deal with will strengthen and motivate you to direct your effort where it is most required.
  
• Directing your effort where it is most required will reduce stress and strain for both the parent and child
• Focusing at the source of the problem would speed up the transformation process

By the way lest we forget, first things first: In order to realise success in your efforts to transform your child or children behaviour, fulfil the reality check first remember? Critically evaluate your behaviour and consider the following.
How can your own behaviour influence your children's behaviour? What can you change to positively contribute to the transformation of your child's behaviour? Sure you can do it and reap the benefits of having a child that does not live in fear, A transformed happy child that relate well with you and is confident enough not to succumb to peer pressure and many more.
Bad children behaviour can be stopped and transformed for the best experiences in life.