Are you enjoying the single life, or have you about had it? Consider what you want out of your current relationship.
How does it align with your long-term goals? It could be that what you currently have is much more serious than you ever gave it credit for.
And if you find yourself in that situation, then you need to ask yourself if it is what you truly want.
Find the area where you are most comfortable.
Communicate.
But before getting into any of those long in-depth conversations about whether it is time to break down and perhaps get couple T-Shirts, see where you stand by considering the following: Your date is implied: When the weekend rolls around, what are your plans? If it's understood that you will be together, then the reality is that no matter how you choose to think of it, you are in a committed relationship.
Guys especially are bad about downplaying the seriousness of their situations.
But your relationship isn't just about what you say it is.
It is also about what you show.
And if you are on an implied date every weekend, you're sending the message that you are seriously committed whether you mean to or not.
You're regular phone buddies: Do you talk or text each other every night? Maybe it goes even further than that, and you look forward to those little dings from your smart phone while you are slaving away at work.
If you stay in constant communication with one another, or, if in an extension of the above sign, you both understand that you will talk to one another at night, then you are clearly more committed than the average passing relationship.
You want to impress each other: Do you still scrub down the bathroom before your partner arrives? Do you always make sure you look your best whenever you go to meet one another? Do you want to look your best for your partner's friends, so he or she can take pride in your relationship? If those things matter to you, you are more serious about taking your relationship to the next level.
You envision your future together: When you are single, you hear yourself say, "When I get married," or "When I have kids," but you don't really envision what that looks like.
If you are seeing someone, and you can see their face in those fantasies, either as your husband or as what your children will look like, then it means your relationship has advanced beyond passing committal.
You share everything: Are you transparent, or "see-through" with one another? If you love to share the tidbits and major events of your day with each other, then you clearly think of each other as more than friends or "good dates.
" Commitment begins with sharing, and if you are sharing your time, your thoughts, and your beliefs with one another, then you are more serious whether you are ready to admit it or not.
Don't pick out your couple T-Shirts until you are ready to admit there is something there beyond the physical.
Relationships are not just about physical commitment, but emotional and spiritual as well.
Make sure it's what you want, and full steam ahead!