I was the kind of guy who always wanted to have a child and it was one of the first things I talked about with my then girlfriend, before we first got engaged. I wanted to make sure that she wanted to have children, and thankfully she was fully on board, as it was something she had always dreamed of doing as well. It was extremely important to me to have a family of my own, because I didn't want to end up like one of those unfortunate couples who never had children and end up dying alone. I wanted to have family around me when I was older, and I thought it was extremely important to have children of my own. I was basically willing to sacrifice as much as I had to, be it financial or with my time, to have my own children.

However, I wasn't quite sure when I wanted to have my first child, and basically after my wife and I got married, I never really brought the issue up with when I felt like we should have a child. After our first few months of being married, my wife approached me with the subject, and the moment that I had been waiting for so long, was finally staring me in the face. It was put up or shut up time for me now, and I told her that I thought we should try to conceive as quickly as possible. I had all of these fears inside me the moment these words came out of my mouth, especially financial worries. I knew it was going to cost us a great deal of money to raise a child, and since I wasn't making very much money back then it was a very real fear.

The thing is, I didn't allow this fear to hold me back from having my daughter, who today is a bright and beautiful 10-year-old. I simply can't imagine how different my life would be without her in it, and I know that if I didn't have the courage to have her, my life would be dramatically altered. Whenever you are trying to decide if you want to have a child, you have to learn to overcome your fears, and determine which ones are legitimate, and which ones are just excuses. Keep in mind that most of your fears about having a baby will actually never come true, and the rewards for having a child are immeasurable