Choosing between family court or child custody arrangement???
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How to choose between family court or child custody arrangement?

There is a lot of bonuses to either one of these methods. Each one has bad points too so I am going to tell you my knowledge and storyâEUR(TM)s of going threw both of them.
Let you make up your on mind on the subject. Because this is a very big discussion in both your kids life and yours.
So take the time and make sure you are making the right one. What ever one you choose stick with it is a hard journey in front of you.

The bonuses of child custody arrangements

This works out the best for the kids. If both parents can keep their heads and get a long with each other. Thinking before every choice what is the best for the kids.
The kids are more likely to grow up a lot better in this type of arrangement. Because the are watching their parents working together to make sure stuff works out.
No matter how old the kids get you still have to deal with your ex all the time in both family court or child custody arrangements. The difference is how you have to handle your ex.

The bad points of child custody arrangements

I must warn you if you know that down the road a agreement between your ex and you wonâEUR(TM)t work. DonâEUR(TM)t go this route. Even if your ex and you have a great relationship now.
But you donâEUR(TM)t know how it will be in a couple years down the road. Their is no paperwork to make sure the other parent stays in line taking care of their responsibilities.
I was burned pretty bad in this type of arrangement. My ex was suppose to just have my daughter for the week end and drop off Sunday night. But instead of doing what she was suppose to be doing.
She took off with my daughter to a different state and was trying to keep her there. I went to the cops to try and get my daughter back. In which they told me seems there is no court paper work on this matter they canâEUR(TM)t do nothing about.
So my hands was tied and I couldnâEUR(TM)t do nothing about it.

The bonus of family court

This way bonus the parents mainly. I which it is hard on the kids.most of the time when. 90 % that the parents choose to go with child custody arrangements. Ends up going into family court anyways because it donâEUR(TM)t work out.
The bonuses of family court is that everything is writing down. In which the parents have to obey by the orders. If not they lose more time or get in trouble. That lead to your ex and you fighting a lot less. That is always good for your kids.
Their is no more auguring if some one is doing something wrong. You take them back top court if they are doing something bad.

The bad points of family court.
The major problem with family court is that it puts your kids right in the battle. Your kids get a lawyer and have to talk to them be their self. In which it lets you kids know that something is going on and their parents canâEUR(TM)t work it out.
They know more about what is going on and puts bigger road blocks in their life. DonâEUR(TM)t get me wrong I think the kids should have a lawyer in court because that lawyer is just worried about what is good for the kids. There has to be someone in that court room that just cares on how the kids feel about the subject.
Not worrying about what anybody else thinks just what the kids want.

Basically

In the end it comes down to the choice. So what I would tell you is if your ex and you can get along. Step up and do what is the best for kids over your guys own feelings. Go with a child custody arrangement instead of family court. If you have any doubts on if it is going to work.
Go to family court it will probably end up there down the road anyways.