You might think that your ex-wife has you by the wallet and the heart-strings by having full custody of your children, making every attempt to keep you from seeing your kids, or by having you pay extraordinary amounts of child support to financially assist her in raising your kids without you.  But know that things can always be turned around in your favor if you want to gain custody of your children, increase the amount of visitation rights you have, and lower your child support payments to your ex-wife.

Many men have a negative approach to family court.  They think that the court will automatically be against them, that their ex-wife's attorney is going to run them dry, and that they're basically screwed in the long-run.  But this is not the case at all--father's rights have come a long way, and every court wants a father to have a part in their children's lives. 

In order to fight your ex-wife in court to get custody of your kids, you can forgo the expensive court costs and attorney fees and go into court confidently Pro Se.  Self-representation can be scary sometimes, but know that many fathers before you have done the same and been successful.  The best way to reap the benefits of their success is to use their winning court strategies to a T.  Having another father who has been there, done that is an excellent way to obtain a mentor that can help you through the uphill battle of father's rights.  Have someone whose been through it all look over your paperwork, offer objective opinions and play "Devil's Advocate" for you in order to assist you in preparing for unexpected arguments that may arise in court.

By having a mentor assist you through the process of obtaining father's rights, you will be one step ahead of your ex-wife and her attorney at all times during family court.