I get e-mails from time to time from guys that are at their wit's end trying to figure out women. And, while I do not feel the same way, I feel for them. I used to be in the same set of shoes at one time. Luckily, that didn't last forever and luckily for you, it can all begin to end right now.

A lot of men seem to struggle with figuring out what a woman wants, simply because they are a bit out of touch with the female perspective. Of course, this is natural, as both sexes do differ quite a bit when it comes to relationships and dating.

Here are four simple tips that should help alleviate some of the stress and remove the confusion a bit for YOU.

1. Women want a man that has his own vision. For most women, the idea of attracting a man that lacks any drive and motivation in life is the equivalent of striking out. You have to be able to show that you are indeed a man that is going places and has life together. This will make you seem more qualified to be a man that they desire to have a relationship with.

2. Women want to be with a man that brings out the spice in life. Sitting around the same apartment night after night, being involved in the same routines, these are not exactly the elements of magic that make a woman fall for a guy. To make her fall for you, she has to be able to see that with YOU, she can enjoy life. This is an irresistible quality to possess and the benefit is that you will make YOUR life much more enjoyable as well. A real win-win situation for you.

3. Women want to feel protection and security. This does not specify that you have to be a street tough kind of guy. You do have to make a woman feel as though you are the one that will have her back when times get tough. Of course, you will hope that they do not ever get that way, but you do want her to see YOU as the kind of man that will offer some kind of protection for her.

4. Women want a man that does try too hard. I can't tell you how much of an instant turnoff this can be for most women. The minute you find yourself sweating bullets trying to get a woman to fall for you, you know that she is going to pull away. This is because a woman wants to be with a man that makes things EASY for her. And to show her this, you have to be able to remain calm and cool while you are pursuing her.

I will readily admit that trying to make a woman want to be with you can cause you to stress out and lose sleep. However, getting this way will only cause things to work against you. Trying to make things work for YOU is a much easier option.

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