Jemima our just-turned 4-year-old grand daughter lives with us and throws temper tantrums.
Lynnette my wife responds to these calmly in an amazingly self contained and controlled manner.
I however tend to want to react by taking control of the situation by putting a stop to the tantrum immediately.
I know that Lynnette's way is the better and right way to go.
I am learning that it is better to respond appropriately rather than react to Jemima's out bursts.
This article will look at five sure ways to help deal with your toddler's temper tantrums.

• Don't Spank, Hit or Yell

When your toddler is out of control, you don't want to smack, hit or yell at her to try to get her to behave.
Anything like spanking, hitting or yelling will only make her more upset.
Be aware that she knows how to "push your buttons".
If you are a volatile mom or dad, it'll be easy for your toddler to trigger an explosion from you, ending in a screaming match with no winners.
It just won't work.
Try ignoring the tantrum.

• Ignore Minor Anger Outbursts

If you ignore your toddler's tantrums you send her a clear message that her tantrums are unacceptable.
Minor displays of toddler anger such as, screaming, crying or kicking can usually be ignored.
Your toddler is trying to attract your attention.
If you don't give her that attention, she will lose interest and stop the tantrum.
When the tantrum is over take her in your arms to reassure her and let her sense that you are on her side.
Distraction is another cool technique to try.

• Use Distraction

Distract her with something, which is a great way to help her calm down.
Put a cartoon video on, listen to music, read a story, watch television, go outside, watch animals, or anything else that might work-it will be worthwhile.
Easier said than done but if you find a distraction that works it can be enough to settle the storm.
Sometimes it is time to just let her cry.

• Let her Cry

Let your toddler cry it all out.
Let her cry, scream, and totally freak out until she is over her tantrum.
We don't like our toddlers to be out of control but the truth is that all toddlers go through this stage, will have tantrums and lose control at some point.
She may need to be removed.

• Remove her from the Situation

If it gets too much and you feel like you are losing your cool, remove your toddler from the situation.
Take her to another room to give her time-out to cool down and regain control.
A good rule of thumb for a time-out is one minute of time for every year of your child's age.
If you cannot remain calm, leave the room.