Do you wish you knew how to ask guys out? Is it hard to get up the courage, or is more a matter of figuring out the right words to say? Would you like to have some solid tips to help you start? If the answer to these questions is yes, then take a look at a few tips offered below.
Keep in mind that learning how to ask guys out is a matter of both attitude and technique.
The following suggestions should help you with both: Be willing to take a risk.
When you start thinking about how to ask guys out, it probably feels like a bit of a role reversal.
Sometimes it takes courage to go against your typical way of doing things.
You might find yourself having thoughts like: "What will people say if I ask a guy out?" Or you might be wondering what the guy himself will think.
So tell yourself you're a modern woman - and why do you care what people will say, anyway? As for the guy, chances are he'll be flattered and receptive.
If he isn't interested in you, it won't be because you asked him out.
Make things low-key.
If you're new at this and are just learning how to ask guys out, start with something simple and natural.
Don't ask a guy out on a first date to dinner at the most expensive restaurant in town.
Instead, you might mention that you remembered that he had said he liked chili dogs and that the best chili dogs in town were just a couple of blocks away from where you go to school - would he like to meet you there for lunch? If you are involved in a group activity, ask him to join the group for coffee or drinks the first time - maybe next time he'll turn the tables and just ask you.
A casual opportunity that seems to naturally present itself is a low-pressure way to show you know how to ask guys out.
Let him meet you half-way.
Now that you've made the first move, let him help you carry things forward.
Guys like to be asked, but they also like to feel that they have some control over the situation as well.
Offer to go dutch, for instance, instead of making it your treat - unless it's with someone you're already dating regularly.
If he offers to pick you up, accept.
Ask for his suggestions about your planned activities.
In ways such as this, the date becomes something that both of you have planned, and it takes some of the pressure off you to micro-manage the whole event.
Knowing how to ask guys out means learning how to compromise-and relax.
Now that you have a few ideas with which to adjust both your attitude and your technique, it's time to put the two together and go for it.
Knowing how to ask guys out is the first step.
The second step, of course, is putting it into action.
The weekend will be here before you know it.
Time to start practicing your new skills!