Most often than not, mothers tend to have an already existing bond between they and their children, during the stages of pregnancy.
And from the period they are brought forth, a disappearance of that natural bond or relationship occurs as time passes, and this is mostly evidenced when it comes to the female children (Daughters).
The relationship between a majority of mothers and their daughters can be at times viewed as awkward and strange due to the space or distance created between them over the years, for various reasons resulting from the poor connection existing in their relationship.
However, the situation is not entirely an impossible one, as most mothers would put it, when it comes to handling and dealing with their daughters in regards to their relationship with them.
All you need to know is that, it's not going to be easy, but developing the right approach to the situation can help correct and right most of the wrongs that exists in the relationship.
The needed effort required putting you and your daughter on the right path to attaining a happy and enjoyable mother- daughter relationship, depends mostly on you the mother.
I say this because, you are more matured, open-minded and able to handle relationships effectively when it comes to dealing with people and a relationship with your daughter cannot be an exception.
Let me take you through some few steps, which will help you get that solid relationship you are looking forward to building with your daughter.
First of all, in order to build a firm relationship with your daughter; you need to create a communication platform or medium.
This is very vital and necessary in every relationship, and when it comes to a mother - daughter relationship, it's no less different.
Having a means of communication or platform; opens up the relationship for the free voicing out of issues pertaining to the both of you.
It gives way to repairing and mending the challenges faced by you two in the relationship, as there is the means of talking and expression of feelings to one another.
You should be able to talk to your daughter about any and everything! I mean, how difficult can it be to ask her how her day's been like?, what happened at school?, what's going on with her? It will only make it a lot easier for her to warm up to you and eventually get to feel safe and secure, sharing her thoughts, feelings and ideas with you.
Isn't that great? Also, you need to include your daughter in your priorities.
Female children need all the attention and care they can get from their parents, but the most needed is the one from their mothers.
You must include your daughter in your priorities and make it a point to set aside some quality time to spend with her.
Engage the two of you in fun and exciting stuff that she'll love and want to do; for instance, you guys could try an activity like cooking, going out for picnics, picking up strolls and a whole lot more.
You might be surprised to know that she might end up taking likeness in doing these things and even much better, want to hang out with you more often.
One needs to also develop a level of trust and confidence when it comes to their daughters.
This is very essential when trying to build a good mother daughter relationship.
No one likes to be spied on especially when they feel that they are not being well trusted to do certain things and handle certain situations all by themselves.
When this occurs, the relationship becomes shaky and unstable.
You should try to give your daughter some space to be on her own, take certain decisions by herself without having you criticizing and interfering in those situations.
The idea behind this is to allow her the opportunity to prove herself in her own ways without having you judging and distrusting her.
Allow her prove to you that she can be trusted and is worthy of gaining your trust.
You can do this by giving her tasks to perform on her own and believing that she can handle them all by herself.
As a mother, it's OK to sometimes worry about your children; but when they feel you are doing it because you don't trust them well enough, they might end up hiding stuff from you which you'll not like at the end of the day.
Just trust them and have the confidence that they'll do good in the decisions they take, but be there for them when they fall and need you.
That's what a mother is there for.
Furthermore, you need to show your daughter much love, care and affection.
Let her know of her importance in your life and value each moment spent with her.
Show your love to her in ways that she never knew and support her each step of the way in whatever she does.
Make sure to correct her but do not be quick and irrational to judge and blame her when she falters.
She's in her maturing stages and needs someone to shower her with love, support and affection, not one who will scold and judge her for the least error committed.
Remember, that when you don't treat her right, she might decide to seek that love and affection elsewhere.
And that would not go well in your favor as a mother, as you eventually tend to push your daughter further away from you.
Be there for her emotionally and physically.
Be that friend she needs to trust and share most of her problems with, whenever she's going through those tough times.
A good relationship is possible with whomever you choose to have it with; and with regards to your children, more especially your daughter, this can be achievable.
You should however know that it most often won't be that easy having to deal with her rejection and all, but if you prove yourself worthy of being that mum she's always wanted and dreamt of, you'll end up winning her love, trust and affection without even knowing it! Always remember, that the journey of a thousand miles begins with a step.
Start correcting your wrongs now and move a step further towards having that fruitful relationship with your daughter.