The Phenomenon

Commitment phobia among men is not rare. It had been there for long. Men were acknowledged for their reluctance to retrograde their free rein. And a sworn relationship, such as a wedlock, would always - at the minimal in their wits - cut them off from that free rein of being a free man.

Men are, commonly, truly self-supporting. They fond to do and determine things for themselves, and by themselves. Being committed, for instance, would cause him lose his freedom to do all he likes the way he wants. There is even an old fish story related to it: "It is said that the bride wears white clothes because white represents quietness and felicity. If that's accurate, then why does the groom constantly wrapped in black?"

But, albeit fear of commitment among men had been there for ages, it had never been a grave trouble until now. Today, more and more men are found to have to jitters to pledged relationship to some stage, even to the extent of phobia. Yes, more and more males experience commitmentphobia today! What are the reason of it? And how can we handle it?

The Root

In today's daily lives, the causes of commitment phobia in men are no longer as impeccable as in a couple decades ago. Much as it's still and all factual that the primary reason for fear of committed relationships among men is their qualm to renounce prerogatives, now the advancements that women have accomplished also play a distinguished capacity.

Innumerable women now are financially much more self-contained. And more and more offices, that were traditionally administered by men now have been arrogated by women.

For ages, men commonly have the role as provider for his parentage. That part had presented them signification of certainty. They knew that their line (partner and kids) needed them. The sense of being needed brought him feel important.

The current developments, added by the advancements in newscasting modern application that create opportunity for us to watch every news and ways among celebrities with all their scandalous stories, have degraded countless men's pride and thoughts of self-conviction. The broadcast about how so many women now can cheat their men easily and rip them off, as well as their own bad experiences with women in their lives make the thought of being committed for a lifetime relationship to a single girlfriend is very scary!

And not only that. The ease trend now to have sex anytime they want also contributes greatly to their hesitancy to be involved in committed relationships. There are so many women now who are willing to do one night stand with a man they hardly even know. And also that "friend with benefit" style that is so common today makes innumerable men conclude that a sworn relation is unnecessary.

The Solution

I guess there's no such thing as a clear solution for this. If you are already in a affiliation with a men with fear of committed relationships, then there are only two choices: either to dump him and save yourself from more forthcoming discompose and misery, or to assist him to overcome his fearful of commitment . The second action of course will not be easy. It can torture you mentally and emotionally. But the decision is yours to make. The key is, persistence and endurance.

Uprightly, I will not recommend to keep your tie with him unless you know with certainty, with all you heart and spirit, that he is "the one" for you, your true one. But, even if he is, I have to tell you: your battle to win him will be hard. You may need to pause seeing him for a few weeks or even months (after having a heart-to-heart speak about what you require from him in the alliance) to give him time and space to solve his problems. If he really loves you, then he will find himself at a point where he becomes conscious of the fact that the thing he fears the most is losing you, not committing to you.

And for you who have not been in affiliation, there are many signs of commitment phobia that you can use to detect whether a potential man is a sufferer of commitment phobia or not. Preventing is continuously easier than curing. So, if you cognise that a potential man suffers a afraid of commitment , do yourself a favor: run away! Unless... of course, you know deep within your heart that he is "the one" for you.