It's a natural human reaction to want your ex back after a break up. For most people, the only problem lies in knowing how to do it, and when. Chances are that you have already started contemplating the various ways you can go about getting your ex back, and haven't been able to manage to come up with much. Very likely, your mind is clouded over with emotions right now, and you're probably not thinking clearly.

Within the deepest depths of a relationship lies emotion and affection, or at least it should. If you are considering using sex to get your ex back, then you're making a mistake. A break up is a time period in which things can either change for the better or the worst. Actions taken during this time are very crucial. Sex is something that should be sacred, not thrown around like a pair of dirty socks. You need to take care to think about what it is you are trying to get across to your ex.

What does your relationship mean to you? Sex is something that can have a lot of meaning, or none at all. Using it to get your ex back could potentially change the way your ex views you. There is a good chance that any respect they ever had for you will be gone. They'll think that is all there is to you and nothing else. Furthermore, if you're broken up, you shouldn't even be giving your ex the time of day.

It was them who wanted to break up, right? Let them have their way. Cut off all means of contact with them and deal with it for now. Cry, get angry, or whatever else makes you feel better, just do not talk to them or let them see you for a while. Having sex with them still allows them most of the benefits of being with you. If you were to use sex as a way to get your ex back, they wouldn't appreciate you if you were to actually get back together in the future. Honestly, is that what you want?

What's even worse is that when someone uses sex as a way to get someone back, it's obvious. Your ex may feel disgusted with you, and the negative energy that comes from the whole ordeal may cause you to feel the same way about both yourself and your ex. It simply isn't worth it.

The better idea would be to stay away for a couple of months, think about all the things that went wrong, focus on how you can improve yourself and your future relationship with them, and take some time to make your life better. The key is to let them miss you. If they call, do not answer, especially if it hasn't been long since the break up.

Wait a few days before calling them back. If they do not call, send them an email after two months just to tell them about how you are doing. Do not mention the relationship under any circumstances whatsoever. Make sure that the letter is short and sweet - almost passive. The only thing you need to be concerned with is getting their attention. Once you have sent your letter, let them email you back. It may take an hour, or it may take two months. But do not worry, it will happen, and you will get your ex back.

Once you establish your first contact with your ex, make an effort to meet up somewhere as friends. When you see them, make sure that you look very nice, but casual and not too fancy. Talk about lighthearted subjects with them from now on. Before you know it, your ex will be pursuing you, and you will have gotten your ex back the right way.