Question:

I want my boyfriend back but I have no idea where to start or what to do. Can you give me some ideas please, I really miss him!

Answer:

Winning back the heart of your boyfriend after a breakup takes timing and the right moves. However, before making any moves, you need to be in a position of power first.

If you're not, every move you make to get your ex boyfriend back will be met with resistance. And what's worse is that you'll feel like you're just stumbling along trying to piece together a broken relationship.

It's crucial that every move you make is done from a position of power. Have confidence in both your actions and your words. Let it speak for who you are and what you want.

It's important to note here that with the breakup, your boyfriend now owns the relationship and its destiny. In doing so, he's in a position of power where you are not. The deck is stacked against you... and as long as that's the case; you'll never get the upper hand.

Get Your Boyfriend Back By Reclaiming Your Position

The following is fundamental to get your ex boyfriend back: What you really want to accomplish here is to change his mind set about how he sees you. It's important that he sees you as someone worth dating and not just an ex.

Get him to see you as his equal instead of something to be controlled.

I'm sure right now you're asking yourself the question : "How do I get back control of a relationship that's finished?"

In reality it's not possible. However, what you can do this instant is take a little control away from your ex by getting his attention.

Right after the breakup, your boyfriend is going to have a certain opinion of you - and it's something that you'll need to change quickly. His mind is going to be made up unless you change it for him. Luckily for you there are several ways to get your ex to notice you again and at the same time realize that he may have made a huge mistake in dumping you.

Understanding these methods and how they work will put you on the right track to getting him back.

How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back By Knowing What You Really Want

Why do you want to get back together with someone who dumped you?

If you haven't already asked yourself that question, I think you should. Is is because you love him? Is it because you miss him? I'll bet the reason you want him back is much simpler; it's because he rejected you.

Take a moment and think about that.

I'll bet your first reaction after your boyfriend dumped you was to argue your case and try and save the relationship. But did you stop and really think about it? Maybe you're better off apart? The problem here is that your response to the breakup was natural but reflexive and defensive.

It's natural to want to be loved and it's also natural to want what we can't have. The instant your boyfriend ended it was the very instant you wanted to be loved by him and also wanted what you could no longer have.

But you know something he doesn't. The door swings both ways. This is great for you because you can make your boyfriend want you back with this tiny little trick.

Inside The Mind of Your Ex Boyfriend

"When I know a girl wants me back, I'm not interested in her at all. The fact that she's still chasing me is a reminder why I broke it off."

"But something strange happens when she stops chasing me. She becomes instantly attractive again. Not being able to have her anymore makes you do a total 180 from when you could have her any time you wanted."

If you want to get your ex boyfriend back and turn the tables on your relationship, the first thing you need to do is stop seeing yourself as someone who is weak and helpless. You might not see it right away, but you're capable, strong and you have something to offer in a relationship... harness this confidence in yourself because this is the secret to getting him back and making him want you.

The other thing you need to do to get your ex boyfriend back is to change your mind set about the "control" your boyfriend has. Even though he's the one who ended it, he doesn't have total control over what you do next. There are things that are in your control that will change the way he sees you. And the sooner you start working on yourself and make personal adjustments, the sooner he'll take notice of you.

The last thing I should mention to you here when it comes to get your ex boyfriend back, is to not dwell on the breakup. So your boyfriend broke up with you... it happens every day to women around the world. This doesn't give you a license to go around and throw a pity party for yourself. I suggest you go back and re-read the part about seeing the break up through your boyfriend's eyes. Begging, pleading and chasing him won't make him want you back. As you work to restore your confidence, your actions and your words will follow suit and your boyfriend WILL notice you.

Using the Dating Secret to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

What you want to accomplish here is to make it seem like you're no longer interested in your ex. Up to this point, this is the exact opposite of what you've been doing, so as soon as your ex realizes you're no longer chasing him, he's going to take notice.

This simple yet effective ploy will make it so your ex can't get you out of his head. You might not think that he's all that interested in what you're currently up to, but you'd be surprised how fast and effective this is.

Since your ex is the one who broke things off and you've been chasing him, he knows he can have you back at his convenience. This puts him in a position of power like I talked about before because it allows him to do whatever he wants during the break up.

However, when you take control and start doing your own thing, something wonderful happens. You're ex has to deal with the fact that he might lose you. What's even better is that "breaking up" with your ex puts him on the receiving end of the rejection. Now I understand that you're not technically dating, but you've now broken contact with him and taken away any chance he has of getting you whenever he wants.

Your ex broke it off to start. But now you've turned the tables on him. This is a key component to getting your ex back because it forces your ex to take a step back and decide if he really wants you out of his life for good. What you're doing here is making your ex want you by not wanting him.