- Though accidents will happen quite frequently in the beginning of the training process, leaks and soiled underwear can prove frustrating at first. Even when your child seems to have grasped the basics, occasional mistakes will happen. Remain calm and patient and reinforce the child's need to use the potty in a gentle and supportive voice. Otherwise, the toddler may become nervous and anxious, which will only lead to more accidents.
- Less responsive children who have a strong will of their own may be hesitant to forgo their diapers for visits to the potty. Outright refusal, crying, stubbornness and tantrums may result from your early suggestions and instructions, but prepare to work through the resistance. Offer incentives, like candy, fun trips to nearby locales, additional playtime or simple verbal praise. Your child will begin to respond favorably when she realizes she can exchange her obedient acts for a reward.
- Some children may be hopelessly intimidated by the large, noisy toilet at first. Potties designed especially for toddlers are a common alternative to the adult toilet, as they can act as a smooth transition between diaper and commode. Even the potty can inspire fear in the timid toddler; falling in is a real concern when one is not familiar with the mechanics of the process. Use dolls to demonstrate the simple task. Laugh, smile, and repeat encouraging words to show the harmlessness of the act.
- As your child begins to learn this new skill that requires time, patience, and self-control, he may view initial accidents at home or at preschool as personal failures and become ashamed or upset as a result. Remain supportive throughout the process, and don't allow the child to give up trying after a few unfortunate incidents. When it becomes clear that your toddler lacks the skills required to successfully repeat the task, stop and start again in a few months.
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