If you want a great relationship then I'm sure you know that you need to be confident.
And though you can be confident in so many aspects of relationship building, did you know that the biggest reasons first dates go wrong and don't get the relationship off the ground is the lack of social confidence with and around men? All of the disasters, the awkwardness, the fumbling, the nervousness, can be attributed to your social confidence needing an upgrade or it may ruin your chances of finding true love.
So let's have a look at what social confidence with men is and whether you have enough of it.
Social confidence with men is being able to be the real you, your natural self no matter how good looking, or fanciable your date or potential life partner may be.
It's being so you that you don't try and impress him, you don't use any tricks to snare him, you are just being you.
So do you have enough of this and if you don't what can you do about it? Some women don't have enough social confidence with men and because of this they do things such as: * Read rules books to see what they should say and how they should act * Act in a way that isn't them trying desperately to give a certain impression to the guy * Talk about subjects or allow subjects to come up that ordinarily she wouldn't feel comfortable talking about in an attempt to not rock the boat * Laugh too much out of nervousness * Talk too much * Reveal too much of their past thinking that honesty is the best policy so quickly * And even quiz a guy so much just to make sure he isn't like her ex.
And that's another thing, she will talk about all the bad things her ex did and why he was such a jerk.
Not good, not good.
So if you think this may affect you, here are some tips on what to do next.
Start to see dating as fun, and not necessarily leading anywhere.
When you do this you will start to relax and not need to be someone you're not.
Decide before hand what your boundaries are and stick to them.
For instance if a taboo or sensitive subject comes up, then be prepared to tell your date that it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Think about your attributes and why he is lucky to be on a date with you.
I'm not saying this to give you a false sense of confidence, just to impress on you that as much as he's checking you out, you are also checking him out.
Having a positive view of you and your assets makes it easier for him to see who you really are.
Start to entertain the notion that men love and like you and it's no wonder he wants to date you.
This one belief alone will get men flocking because there is nothing more irresistible as a confident self assured woman.
Read books on body language and small talk- the author Leil Lowndes is very good here.
Think about how you want to feel during your date and practice talking as if that were already true.
And the best tip I can offer you is to have fun and make that your only goal because when you do you will have less and less first date disasters.