Marriage: Is marriage really for you,or are you the marrying type?

In this day and age most people are getting married just to probably stick with that person or to just probably tie them down for their own selfish reasons. But if you ask me, that just doesn't solve anything because marriage is not for everyone. So why are more and more people getting married? Some people can't even answer that question themselves and some say that they are getting married because of good business investments and great money making decisions whether they're unhappy or not, all because they don't want to end up with someone who is less fortunate than them and don't want to end up in the poor house.

I personally wouldn't want to get married to someone because of a good business decision because if I'm unhappy in my relationship, then I would have to move on right away. I mean, why stay miserable if you don't love that person, and I also feel like this, if I have to settle for just anything that comes my way, then I'd rather wait then to be with someone that I can't stand, then end up snapping or killing myself just cause I'm stuck with this person forever, because if that's the way marriage is supposed to be, then I'd rather wait and if I don't ever get married, then so be it cause who really wants to be miserable.

I have a friend who is getting married close to the end of the year and truthfully, I don't even know for sure if it will take place, not to jinx anyone's relationship, but it seems to me that she's calling all the shots and truthfully it really isn't supposed to be that way because it's supposed to be an equal thing, not just one person who's wearing the pants because a man has to be a man regardless to what; so ladies stop trying to call all the shots without the man making his own decisions. No offense to the women out there.

I myself is also in a relationship that just might lead to marriage maybe in about a year or two and know for sure that we will get married because I have faith in my relationship and know that he's my future husband. But who's really rushing these things. Although him and I live seperate lives, but at the end of the day, he's mine and only mine and love him to death and we have a pretty good solid relationship but we're not going to jump into marriage just like that. Yes, I know he loves me just the same as I love him but neither of us are thinking about marriage as of this moment in time. But my relationship isn't broken, so therefore, there's no need for me to try to fix it.

The ways you can tell that you're the marrying type:

-If you cook for your man when he's hungry

-If you clean his whole apartment without him asking and you're doing it out of the kindness of your heart without exepcting something in return.

-If you listen and have good communication with a lot of understanding involved.

The ways you can tell that you're not the marrying type:

-If you let your man starve or just feed him fast food every night.

-If you flirt with his friends and have many affairs behind his back.

-Not trusting his judgement and accusing him of infidelity and snooping around with no understanding whatsoever.

-If you lie around all day long in his apartment and make messes without cleaning up after yourself and not showing any consideration.

-Selfishness.

Now,most marriages usually end in divorce or sepepration all because no one was really ready to take that plunge or it was arranged or just a quick desperate fix up and then you end up hating each other in the end .

Know this: Marriage is not for everyone and you have to be ready mentally and financilally so brace yourself and get ready cause marriage is serious business and is no laughing matter and have to know for sure if this is what you want to do.

So when it comes to marriage, you must be sure that you are really set to take that step into living for better of for worse.