If you have just been dealt the terrible emotional blow of a break-up, you are reading the right article. I know that it seems as if the pain will never stop. But to get your ex back, you will have to gain some control over these terrible emotions. Here are 3 fantastic tips to get you there fast.

** Forget about your ex for now **

To save you from yourself, this is probably one of the most important things to do right now. Obsessing over your ex and what they are doing right now will not help your situation at all.

You should rather focus on your own life and do good at work, spend quality time with friends, hit the gym a few times a week or anything else that will keep your life going as it should be.

** Lack of contact, abundance of healing **

Over the years it has become a proven fact that contact after a break-up should be avoided like the plague. Shortly after your ex packed their things you are still highly emotional and even worse, needy.

Neediness is the number one attraction killer known to mankind. By trying to call your ex to explain to them why they should come back, it will only drive them further away - sometimes to the point of no return.

By trying to contact them the whole time, you are giving them attention they definitely do not deserve right now. They just broke your heart and here you are trying to save the situation?

Stop. The time will come when you phone your ex again for the first time, but until then be sure to avoid contact.

** Pretend that the split was the best thing to ever happen to you! **

This little trick seems to work almost every single time. Right after a break-up your ex almost expects you to come crawling back, begging, crying and pleading to take you back.

Now let's do the opposite and rock your ex's world! What you are going to do is pretend as if the break-up was the most fantastic idea. Say that you have been thinking about it as well and that you are relieved that your ex said something.

This will throw your ex off completely. Now don't be surprised if they call you soon, "just to hear how you are doing" while in reality they are trying to figure out why you are so cool with the break-up.

At this point you start playing hard-to-get. It's ironic really, because now you will start to gain control over the situation and your ex will become needy for your attention!