Are you having a hard time letting go of your emotions enough to stop loving someone? Do you constantly think of that person and of the heartache they caused you, but you still love them? Is it hard getting past the love you feel for that person and simply move on with your life? When a relationship doesn't work out quite like we'd hoped, it can be excruciating and the need to stop loving someone becomes intense and important.
We want to move on and we want to think of other things and other people, but our thoughts and our hearts constantly come back to that one person we truly love.
Know that you're not alone in your quest to mend your heart, and consider the following advice as you try to forge on with your life.
Time Heals An old adage, this is truer than a lot of people want to believe.
Of course while we're right in the middle of all that pain and angst, time seems to do little to relieve the anguish.
It's not a simple matter of days that's going to do the trick.
You truly have to give your heart all the time it needs.
Mourning the Loss When you decide you want to stop loving someone, you're brain might be on board right away, but your heart is still trapped in that relationship.
Though you might put on a happy face when you step out, don't be afraid to sincerely mourn your loss in private or with close friends.
Cry, let out your pain and share it with the people who are closest to you.
Keep Busy So you do a small task and that person is on your mind; the pain, the hurt, the heartache comes back and you wish you could stop loving them.
Then you do something more complicated, something that requires more concentration, and, hopefully, something you enjoy doing.
When you stop, you'll probably think of that special person again.
Idle, your brain will now go back to that painful place.
But you'll notice that for five minutes, half an hour or even two hours, you didn't think of them at all.
Be Honest Sometimes we fall in love with who we think a person is.
Once we discover they're someone else, it can be hard to make that transmission and stop loving them.
We're attached to the dream, the hope and the fantasy of it all.
That person may simply have not been the one you were meant to be with.
Analyze your feelings and your relationship and you'll come to discover that it wasn't really what you had hoped it'd become.
Letting go of a dream can be difficult, but once you see that you're true destiny is with another person, you'll have an easier time of releasing all the pain and heartache, and one day you'll find that you've stopped loving that person.
It won't happen overnight, but trust that it will happen and you'll be happy again.