It is not uncommon for married couples to come to a point in their relationship when they are wondering if separation might actually help save the marriage.
While separation can be very trying, it is worth giving it consideration because all options are worth exploring to prevent unhappiness or divorce.
Just the thought of separating scares many people because getting married and maintaining the relationship has been a huge investment.
Some people think that if they separate, they won't be able to ever fully come back together to fix the marriage.
But in almost all cases, the opposite is actually true.
Most people say that temporarily separating actually leads to a stronger, stabler marriage than before.
How can separation help a marriage? Answering this question is actually simpler than it seems.
The way the marriage is going now will only snowball the conflict and disagreements you two have.
These feelings fill the relationship with debilitating stress and anxiety that makes it almost impossible to clearly see the root of your problems and how to solve them.
Being together all the time only makes this harder.
Taking a temporary break from each other gives you both some time apart to decompress and begin to clear your mind.
This clarity will allow you to see the real issues in your marriage that need to be worked on.
And then the real benefit of a separation emerges.
You begin to miss one another.
This is an important phase after separation.
Once you are apart, you both begin to realize how much you love each other and you start to fall in love all over again.
You both remember how much you mean to each other and how much you couldn't live without each other.
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