Do you wish you could spark the flame of a lost relationship, and get back together with someone you love, but you've lost? Despite the up and down roller coaster ride with this other person, you miss him and want to give it another go? Let's explore some basic steps that will show you how to get him back.
First, it might sound cheesy and overused, but patience is indeed a virtue.
This is not just some passe advice that was given to your great grandparents once upon a time.
Patience can really help, especially in this situation.
By not rushing into making up, you have a better chance of success in trying to get back together with your ex boyfriend.
A smile or a wave could be sufficient for right now, whenever you run across your ex boyfriend.
Even a quick hello now and again.
If you do these small gestures, it is important for you to keep eye contact, so he see that you are directing these gestures at him, and not at someone else (if you are in public, like at the grocery store), and he can also tell you are sincerely acknowledging him.
Leave it at these simple gestures for a while.
Gradually, you will want to work talking to him into your mix.
Try striking up a conversation with him from time to time, but keep it short and general.
If you are in a social setting, and your friends show up, cut your conversation with your ex boyfriend short and go to your friends.
Be cordial, but show your ex boyfriend that he just isn't a priority right now, however, by having a short and civil conversation, even a nice one, your ex boyfriend will not feel shut out or put off by this behavior.
Keep after yourself, being sure you are taking care of your appearance.
Looking good and smelling good are important.
You also want to try to change things here and there, to keep your look fresh, and to keep your ex boyfriend interested in what they are seeing in you.
This change up will also give you the added benefit for you of boosting your confidence, and helping you to respect yourself after your break up.
Your ex boyfriend will be attracted to this quality in you.
Now, turn your attention to making your ex boyfriend feel good about himself.
This means tossing out the odd compliment from time to time.
don't go overboard here, and at the same time don't skimp.
And above all else, be sincere in your compliments.
If you do this every time you are around your ex boyfriend, making him feel good in your presence, he will find that he wants that feel good feeling more often.
Now, you can talk more about the good old times and the fun times you both shared when you were together.
Reminisce and increase that feel good feeling between the two of you.
What you are doing, by following the above advice, is rebuilding the foundation of friendship that you both once shared.
In a sense, you are starting over, because somewhere along the line, that foundation cracked.
By starting over, rebuilding and strengthening this foundation, you will have a better chance of success as you work on how to get him back.
Don't act in haste, be patient, and he will come back to you.