So you're going through the pain of having been dumped by a loved one? If it's any consolation, you're far from alone.
Most people go through a break-up at least once in a lifetime.
But that's not to say it doesn't hurt.
It sure does and you're at a loss as to what to do next.
The only thing you can think of is how to get your ex back and you're willing to do whatever it takes to get him/her back in your life.
Considering there's almost 90% success rate among those who try to win their ex back and know how to do it, you stand a good chance.
But first, you need an effective Action Plan.
Read on...
If you follow this Action Plan, you'll avoid the mistakes most people make.
For starters, let's go into the Don'ts since they can cause a lot of damage: oDon't call your ex oDon't send any gifts oDon't tell your ex how much you love him/her oAnd certainly don't stalk your ex! And now for the Do's: Instead of doing or saying things you'll regret, take a deep breath and exhale.
Feel more calm? Good.
So, here's what you've got to do: I.
Vanish! No kidding! Maintain no contact whatsoever with your ex.
Even if you desperately want to see or speak with your ex, hold your wild horses! Don't take his/her calls and avoid replying to any emails or text messages.
If it's possible, try not to let your ex know your contact address or phone number.
Since it's obviously not practical to leave town because of an ex, stay away from places he/she likes to hang out in.
Keep up the no contact policy for as long as you can, but don't over do it! The last thing you want to find out is that your ex waited and then finally moved on! II.
The next step in getting your ex back is to work on your self-esteem and confidence level.
Having someone dump you isn't exactly good for your self-image, so be good to yourself.
Heal.
Do things that make you feel good about yourself.
III.
If you do bump into your ex, be cool, not cold! Speak if spoken to, otherwise a smile and a wave should suffice.
Don't show any curiosity regarding what your ex is doing with his/her life.
Refrain from any kind of jealous or resentful behavior if your ex is with someone else.
The more your ex feels that you're happy with your life, the better your chances of getting your ex back.
So, seem chilled out! IV.
After considerable time has passed, take your ex's calls or reply to his/her emails and text messages.
Call your ex and fix a meeting as long as he/she is still single.
If by any chance your ex has moved on, then get the message loud and clear - MOVE ON! V.
When you do meet with your ex, avoid getting into a blame game.
Don't beg him/her to come back to you and don't bring up past hurts.
Making your ex feel guilty, isn't going to win him/her back! Instead, be nice and pleasant.
Make him/her feel special and listen to everything he/she says.
Bring up some loving moments you shared as a couple.
Make him/her smile or laugh.
Let your ex see what they're missing out on...
And don't forget to read between the lines or study pregnant pauses! They speak more than words!