It usually happens fast. You are in love with your guy and happy as can be. Then he tells you he needs a break to do some thinking. Does this mean he doesn't love you anymore? Probably not because love does not die overnight. Even if he said he is no longer in love with you, it isn't necessarily true. Some thing is bothering him and the best thing you can do is let him work it out.

Men, and especially young men always wonder what they are missing in life. If you and your ex boyfriend have been pretty close, this could be his problem. He hears other guys brag about their conquests, and although he knows most of the stories are a lie, it still makes him wonder. In fact letting him take a break and even date some other women could be a good thing.

If you are the one for him, he will soon realize it and come running back to you. You might think this is taking a risk and in a way it is. However men have to roam for a while before they settle down. You are better off to let him get the roaming out of his system before things get too deep between you. The reason for many a divorce is, the man did not satisfy this need to roam and experiment.

The other thing you need to realize after a breakup is, you can't force a man to love you. All of the crying and begging in the world will not bring him back. It might arouse some pity in him, but it won't make him love you. The only way to get your ex back, is to make him want to come back. There was something about you that sparked his interest to begin with and you have to spark his interest again.

Think of what you were doing when you met your ex boyfriend. You probably had some hobbies, you hung out with your family and friends. In other words, you had a life of your own. You were independent and self confident. Then along came this guy and at first you ignored him, but he persisted and you fell in love with him. After that, your life became wrapped around him.

When you fell in love, you lost your independent nature. You thought of your boyfriend day and night and tried to do everything to please him. That might have been part of the problem. Men do not like to be smothered. You also might have wanted to make sure of your guy and wanted him to make a commitment. This could have made you seem pushy and men do not like pushy women.

The way to get your ex boyfriend back is to let him go and become the woman he fell in love with again. Give him a chance to experience his life without you and he will begin to miss you. Your ex boyfriend might need a few days or a few weeks, but he will realize that the place he wants to be is back in your arms.