Not so very long ago, the first question or questions you would immediately ask about when you found out about the infidelity, is why would you do that to our relationship, or how could you cheat on me.
But now in light of all the news happening to celebrities and sports figures in today's society, we seem to have different first questions.
Now there are so many other factors you have to consider when you learn that you are in a relationship where there has been infidelity.
Now the first questions you have to ask of this man who you have loved and trusted over the years, is not how and why he could hurt you that way.
No now the first question you would ask is how many women were there.
Or is this just one time with one woman.
Then you have to find out if it was a one night stand, or was it something far more serious, like an on going affair with one woman.
Then your put in a position of trying to decide of the two of these terrible acts of betrayal, which is more unforgivable, if indeed either one of these acts could be unforgivable.
Many believe affairs are the most destructive to a relationship.
When a person has an affair it usually means they may have deep feelings for this other woman they are involved with, they maybe even be in love.
How do you begin to repair a relationship if your man has fallen in love with someone else.
Then there is the other act of infidelity which is more then 1 woman, which to be quite honest if there is more then one woman then the number of women does not seem really that important.
Because more then one woman, shows such a complete disregard and total disrespect for you and your relationship that it can only be described if there is a worst kind of infidelity then this would be it.
It shows a man lacking in character and in any feelings for any woman that has the misfortune to be in is life.
When there is an affair, as terrible and hurtful as that is, it is an entirely different situation.
Sometimes relationships can survive an affair when it was only once and love was not a part of it.
By no means will it be easy to take him back or more importantly trust him again.
This will require a lot of work on both your parts with no guarantees at the end that you can reconcile.
For some people with help and time they have been able to save the relationship, if it can work for them then that is great.
But it may not or cannot work for everyone.