When a good relationship ends, it is very painful and more so if it is a marriage relationship.
When this happens, we experience a void in our life and get a feeling of insecurity.
For some it could also be a very traumatic experience.
When you feel the problems in the relationship are leading to a split, do all possible to avert it before taking a final call to end it.
Explore every possible avenue and spare no effort to sort out your differences, especially when the person is very important in your life.
If you are already separated but want your ex back, then the first thing you do is to button down the cause of the split, the shortcomings and all your errors of judgment.
Some of the common mistakes that would normally cause a split are: Being too critical of your partner: Constant cribbing could cause your partner to feel unwanted and insecure and so would want to end the relationship as such behavior is intolerable.
The partner who is constantly being cribbed at would tend to lose their self worth and therefore would recourse to a split.
You are a control freak: You always want everything your way and ruthlessly impose your authority on your partner.
This would be a definite cause for a split because relationship is about give and take and can never be a one-way street.
You take your partner for granted: When in a relationship you take your partner for granted and become too comfortable, you are asking for trouble.
Predictability can be boring and it is true in every relationship.
Don't let the fun go out of your relationship, if you want to sustain your relationship and let it grow.
Now that you have identified your problem areas and specifically where you have gone wrong, what do you do next to get back in favor? Some helpful tips to win back your ex: Your ex lover will recognize your game plan if you try to make him / her jealous by mentioning other men or women and this will backfire on your efforts to win your ex back.
If you find that your ex is into a new relationship, it is best to act normal and not being jealous.
You obviously have an advantage; you already know your ex but he or she is just starting to know.
You may have subjugated you personal interests or hobbies that you enjoyed in your single status while in this relationship.
So, go ahead and rediscover them.
Revive old friendships.
It is bad strategy to talk ill about your ex.
You might feel provoked to do so but avoid as it will only show you in bad light.
But if you must purge yourself of your anger, maybe you can try a punching bag.
Alternately go to a counselor or confide in a close friend.
Remember that bad mouthing your ex will only distance them from you, if you're trying for reconciliation.
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