Splitting up with a loved one is a traumatic time, and many times it could have been avoided.
Maybe you argued over something trivial, or maybe you chose to have some space, but it's often the case you want to get back together - here's how: Play the absence game - they say absence makes the heart grow fonder, and it's true.
You and your ex got together for many reasons - you enjoy each others company, you need each others support, you find each other attractive and so on - and those things don't change.
If you chase your ex constantly you may find you put them off by coming on too strong - hang back, give them space, and let them realise they miss you.
Let it be known you want them back - don't do it by ringing them all the time and sending them message, notes and flowers, but by subtlety and care.
Mention her, or him, to your friends in conversation, and the word will get back that you are missing your ex.
Arrange to be in the same place, at the same time, but not in their direct company, and let them know, by glances and such that you know they are there.
The direct approach - this step comes after a decent amount of time has elapsed - say, a couple of weeks or so - and when you know that the above steps have been followed to effect.
A meeting in a bar may be engineered by your mutual friends, resulting in a brief 'Hello' which will then be returned.
Next step is to ask your ex how they are, and the rest comes naturally.
Take it slowly, and you will be on the way to a reconciliation that both of you really want.
Breaking up is hard, but getting back together may be easier than you think.