After the break up happened between you and your girlfriend its sets off a state of panic and you don't know what to do. You feel lost and scared because you didn't really think that is was going to happen, but it did.

The only thing that you think will make it better is by getting her back in your life as quick as possible so you do what you think is right trying to get her back. I know because this is how I felt when my ex girlfriend no longer wanted to be with me, I was in shock.

So I started to do the opposite of what your really supposed to do and pushed her even farther away. All I could think is why she won't talk to me, why is she ignoring me after being together for 3 years and having a son, I was no longer somebody to her I was a complete stranger.

Everything that was doing was not only pushing her away but I was forcing myself to feel insecure which twisted all my emotions up. This is what I don't want to happen to you because it sets you back from moving forward with life and could take a long time to recover from if not careful.

Here is what I did wrong that you should not do.

1. Don't try and convince your girlfriend that she is the one for you or try and force her to be with you. This shows her that you are not respecting what she wants and will start to avoid you because she knows that is all your going to talk about.

2. Don't bring up the past and remind her of all the things that you have done for her, because she will turn right around and try to mention all the things that she done for you and on top of that tell you why she left you in the first place which is a shot to the gut. If you talk to her just keep it simple and quick.

3. When ever you talk to her don't blame her or aqueous her of seeing other men, this shows that you are insecure. I made this mistake and 6 months after we separated she is already partying and giving her phone number away. She is going to do what she wants no matter what, but some good news for you is 90% off all rebound relationship wont last anyways. So sit back and wait for your turn.

4. Becoming less of a man and letting her control you. This is a trap and will be the end of you, the best way to avoid this is just cutting all communication.

Even if you have already done all of this then it is OK there is still a chance to get your ex girlfriend back by reading  "The Magic of Making Up" which will help you get your mind right and rebuild your life and your relationship to get you ex girlfriend back.