Generally, people do not reconcile to a relationship break up.
More often than not, at least one of the partners wants to get their ex back.
This is because it is very difficult to reconcile to the loss of someone with whom you were close for a while.
Many people are unable to accept even death, knowing fully well that nothing can be done to bring back the dead person alive.
So it is not surprising that people do not reconcile to a broken relationship, which can always be restored with some effort.
But some people may feel that the relationship was not good for them and therefore the break up was both an inevitable and a welcome culmination.
But most of the people keep working to get their ex back.
These people have to understand that under certain circumstances, one should not work to get ex back.
The following are some typical situations where you should not work to get ex back.
Selfishness is one quality that is detrimental to any relationship.
It is but natural for people to be selfish.
But selfishness should not go to the level of totally ignoring the other person's needs and feelings.
You cannot live a happy life with a person having such an attitude.
If your ex did not consider your well-being or did not care for your feelings because they were blinded by selfishness, you should not get back together with them.
Your ex was abusive: Did you find that your ex was abusive, either physically or mentally, during your relationship? You should shun the company of such people.
No one has a right to abuse others.
People who have such a tendency are not likely to reform because the tendency to abuse would have become a part of their cultivated personality.
If your ex has not respected your body your mind, keep away from them.
You should congratulate yourself for breaking away from such a person.
Your ex cheated you: Cheating is not uncommon in relationships.
Many people do this at a time when their love has not developed deeply but many will reform and become steadfastly loyal once the bond of love is strengthened.
But how will you know whether your ex has reformed? It is alright to forgive infidelity while you are in a relationship but once the break up has taken place, condoning the cheating acts of your ex and getting back with them may not be wise.
Unless you have a very deep love for your ex and you are confident that you can hold the reins, I will advise you not to get back with an ex who has cheated you.