If you have a close friend he or she probably knows what you have been through with your ex.
There's nothing wrong with confiding in a best friend - that's all part of friendship.
But you may need a little more help in moving on after a break up, here are a few tips that may just get your ex back into your arms.
When you start talking bad about your ex to others, someone somewhere is going to get wind of it and tell your ex, and that will eventually lead to confrontation and arguments.
Some human beings thrive on gossip for some reason, and business environments seem to be the worst places for it.
Do you really want your ex's job put in jeopardy because of something you said? You do?Then you probably need help.
What went on between you and your ex, when you were together, should be private and stay private.
It doesn't matter what your ex was up to, by being in that relationship and putting up with your ex's bad traits or habits, just means you were condoning them.
If he or she was constantly unfaithful, chances are they were like that before you met them, so gossiping and telling everyone that he or she was a "slut" or "a two-timing bastard" is only going to meet with raised eyebrows.
"What, you didn't already know that?" If he or she beat you up physically, howling about it to everyone is only going to get the "well you're better off without him" reaction, and most people are going to wonder why you didn't report it.
You see, it all falls back on you, and others will perceive you as being both weak and spiteful.
You put up with your ex for however long the relationship lasted, so why are you still talking about it?What good does it do to spread rumors and gossip?It's over, move on with your life.
Do something positive instead, all this negativity is only reflecting back on you! If you simply can't stop talking about your ex, then probably deep down inside you want to get them back, and spreading lies and gossip around is definitely not going to help your situation.
Say nothing if you do want to get your ex back.
Try and get on with your life as if you really didn't care that much about him or her anyway.
Exhibiting desperate behavior, such as talking bad about them, will not help your cause.
If your ex never hears another word from you, then they may possibly soften and wonder why.
If you go back to being the person you were before you two fell in love, chances are he's going to get interested again.
People always want what they can't have! If your ex eventually ends up thinking that perhaps the break up was a mistake, it's far easier to reconcile.
You can get back into your old circle of friends and colleagues together, as a couple, without anyone looking at you like you're a hypocrite!So don't talk bad about your ex to others.
Moving on after a break up should be done in baby steps and just maybe by doing the right things, you can get back together again.