Women who have gotten their boyfriend back say it is easy.
Women who have lost boyfriends forever say it will never happen.
Well I happen to know for a fact that a lady who knows what she wants can get her boyfriend back, how do I know? My fiancé got me back! Our friends and people in general will ask me, "Tony, how did it all happen for you guys"? I say that most of it was in the cards and I mean that.
Although she had a lot to do with it.
But Tony what do you mean.
Well..
I mean there were true feelings on both sides, we genuinely cared for each other.
Listen I know for 100% sure love just does not die when you snap your fingers.
Without wasting everyone's time I will just Say April and I were in a committed relationship that had turned into the feel of an old favorite shoe, for lack of better word.
We both were working towards the future but are futures were not working together.
Our relationship was quite stale at the end, with no kids, successful careers neither of us complained much but everything down to Saturday nights had become too predictable.
Finally and I did not realize how this came upon me (honestly), had developed a friendship with a woman who was everything April was when I met April.
I realized I wanted to be with this woman and I promised I would never lie to any woman I was involved with about another woman.
April and I both cried the night I moved out, it was the hardest night of my life to date.
Now their was and is great respect between my lady and I and she gave me space.
She didn't beg, yell, make family or friends choose, show up unexpectedly, text bomb me or anything else of the sort.
She acted like the lady she is, we ran into each other over the next couple of months off and on we were always respectful of one another and I swear she never looked better in her life.
I mean I knew pretty quickly this lady I was dating was an excuse to get out of a relationship, not because there were deep feelings.
But every time I saw April she looked good and smelled even better.
So I know she went on a date or two and I was doing my thing and one night a few months after I left and basically broke off the relationship she called me straight out of the blue and asked if I wanted to met at a new place that just opened, you know like a cheers type of bar real friendly and cheery.
We had a blast, just talking about the past; I mean she brought up what her down falls were, how she had changed, what her life goals were and I did the same.
Another get together for dinner a week or later and it was on, I knew we had grown while we were apart, I also knew I had to win her back, one might think after I left she would have to do the winning; nope I had to have her.
Here is what this lady did to win my heart: - She did not fall apart when I left; she took serious time to know exactly what she wanted and she gave me much needed space to do the same.
- She took care of herself physically and mentally.
She new the relationship had failed but she knew she was not a failure and it showed.
- She looked wonderful.
Every time I saw her she was never looking better and always smelled like a lady.
- She respected my decision on the breakup, not one time out loud did she demean me or my decision, I later found out seeing me nearly broke her heart, but she kept quiet.
- She allowed me to be me and she showed me the person I had forgotten I knew, at the same time she was not the person I had left four months ago, she was reeling me in and I didn't even know it.
Those little innocent get togethers we had were non-pressure meetings that became dates as we laughed at and with each other.
Here is the moral of the story; if he is gone and you know it is wrong let him go, don't live through someone else.
If he uses you, end it, he is not worth it.
If his best interest is not you, let it go; you win hands down.
on the other shoe, if you knows it is right, if he is your knight in shinning armor, then go get him; if the magic was mutual then it was real.
Look at April and I can't write out our whole lives but we were just good to each other respectful to each other.
If this guy treated you right, you know let us help you get your boyfriend back.