Are you trying to get over someone? When a relationship ends, especially if you are not the one who ended it, the intense sadness and loss can be paralyzing.
If you have been together for a long time the process of recovering from a break up will be longer and much more difficult than it would be from a brief union.
The pain of a three year relationship ending is far more painful than ending a relationship of say three months.
While sadness is sadness, the varying levels of intensity set the situations apart.
Regardless, you need to know how to get over someone fast if you want to have happiness in your life again.
As you sit in your house or apartment feeling lonely and sad, look around with a new eye and make note of everything you see that reminds you of your ex.
Take steps to remove these things from places you spend a lot of time.
If you have a lot of knick knacks and such that are gifts from your ex or remind you of them, then pack them away and replace them with items that make you feel happy.
Family photos are a good place to start.
Fresh cut flowers in a vase, a bowl of candy and magazines and books are also good suggestions.
If you picked out practically everything together and have a house full of stuff you bought together, then you can just remove those items that have a strong connection.
You can learn to deal with the other stuff which will get easier as time goes by.
For example, ditching the sofa might not be a great idea, but the pillows you used to watch TV on can go.
Replace those with something else.
When you are feeling especially sad and missing your ex, make a list of all of their bad qualities.
Take the time to think of everything that was wrong with them in the relationship.
All of their bad habits, the mean things they said, their poor housekeeping habits, that annoying noise they made.
This may be difficult as you will be thinking about your ex as you do this, but once you have a list of 10 things, you can hang this list in a prominent place.
Every time you look at it you will be reminded why you are glad they are gone.
After about a week, take down the list and change each of their faults into a way that your life is better now for example...
"he always fell asleep on the couch snoring during TV shows" will become "I can watch TV in peace", or "she was always yapping with her sister on the phone" becomes, "I can eat dinner without interruptions".
Getting out into the dating world is a very effective easy to forget your ex.
Begin a social life that will put you around the opposite sex.
Join a bowling league or book club.
Go to a gym, run in a road race.
Go for a bike ride in the park every Saturday.
Get together with friends and go out on the weekends.
Being in a relationship removes you from the social scene.
Re-connect with old friends and fill your life with new people.
You won't have time to think about your ex and will be getting over your ex more every day!