You might think you're in control of the situation of your breakup but your ex might be taking on the stub-born identity.
If you want that bullheaded ex to look at you again, follow these steps and he'll melt in your hand...
and eventually your mouth.
Step 1: Is The Juice Worth The Squeeze: Is it worth it for your ex to look at you again? Maybe you're doing fine with the breakup or maybe you deserve better anyway.
Before you use all the time and energy to win them back, make sure the end result is worth it.
Step 2: Take A Vacation Far Away: It worked for Josie in The Outfield's "Your Love" song and your ex will appreciate you more if you're gone.
Take some time away, be reclusive for a few weeks and use the time to get your stuff together before taking the step of being seen out and about.
Step 3: Be Hot: The next time your ex sees you, you'll want to make the most of it and you can do so by looking like a hotty.
He'll drop that stubborn act and will instead be filled with a little mixture of jealousy, regret, and love.
You've started to get some control back now.
Step 4: Balance The Tug-of-War: If you're doing all the reaching out to connect with him, step back and add more balance to the situation.
This doesn't mean making him make all the moves but limit your calls, texts, love poems, and 3AM serenades outside their window.
Step 5: Lose Your Stubbornness: It often takes two to not only do the tango, but to help stubbornness thrive.
If you become less set in your ways, there's a good chance he'll follow suit.
Years later when you're married with children, you'll look back and be thankful you both dropped the tough act.
Step 6: Ask Them What Their Deal Is If your stubborn ex won't look at you, simply ask them what their deal is.
They might come clean that they hate you, still love you, or ask who the heck you are.
Opening up and being honest can save your sanity for now and in the long run.
Step 7: Go Into Ignore Mode Yourself: If they still won't look your general direction, cut off all ties as a last resort and ignore them back.
You'll either find that they'll eventually come asking why you stopped calling, texting, writing poems, and singing outside their window at 3AM and that's when you know you've won this battle.