So you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, but have no idea how to go about it.
Your girlfriends are giving you all kinds of advice, and you are feeling overwhelmed and wishing that there were sensible strategies that could help you.
Well, it is true that nothing about life is predictable, but the methods mentioned below can indeed be of immense help in pushing you towards the right direction.
Step #1: Regain emotional balance This means that though easier said than done, you must try to remain calm.
Nothing gets done right when you are in the wrong frame of mind.
So before anything else, work on developing a positive attitude.
This means no posting status messages on Facebook about how heartbroken you are, or spending days in sweatpants and looking like hell.
Surround yourself with positive-minded friends, exercise, meditate, cook, clean, read, watch trashy movies, or do whatever it is that makes you feel lighter.
Step #2: Maintain distance The urge to pick up the phone will be strong, but do not do it.
Most women make the mistake of calling and pleading incessantly, and generally making fools of themselves.
This will also make the guy extremely uncomfortable, and you would like your ex-boyfriend to come back to you because he wants to, right? So stay away from doing any of the above, and generally maintain your distance from him.
No asking friends to keep tabs on his whereabouts, and if you do bump into him somewhere, smile, say hello and then graciously move on.
Step #3: Do some soul searching No one understands the dynamics of your relationship better than you do.
So instead of spending hours dissecting the matter with your pals, spend some alone time.
This will give you the opportunity to think about why the breakup happened, and what role you played to facilitate it.
Unless your ex-boyfriend cheated on you or was abusive (in which case you shouldn't want him back at all!), it takes two people to build or break a relationship.
When you were fighting or upset you probably did not want to dwell on your faults, but now is the time to do so.
Step #4: Make yourself more attractive Nope, this does not mean that you must buy a brand new lip color or that fabulous LBD on sale.
Instead, work on polishing up your personality.
It also does not mean that you must learn everything about your ex-boyfriend's favorite sport, or get a tattoo because he has one.
There is always room for self-improvement, and now is a great time to begin.
Once you do some soul searching as mentioned above, you would have identified your strengths and weaknesses, so start working on them.
Nobody can resist an attractive personality, and when your guy gets to see you again, he will be amazed at the transformation.
Of course a new lipstick or dress can never hurt, so indulge in some retail therapy too.
Once you have followed these golden 'get your ex-boyfriend back' strategies, you will be much more composed and absolutely ready to face your guy for a relaxed and friendly interaction.