For all you men out there, when you break up with a girlfriend, and when she breaks up with you, completely different standards apply.
Always remember that the law is against you.
1.
Do not go to her work place: You may love her, you may want to talk to her and work things out, but the fact is, if she is so heartless that it comes down to this, it is not because she is "hurting too" it is because she simply is self obsessed and so not care.
By the time you arrive to her work place, chances are she has already lied to her fellow employees.
You may just want to apologize, talk to her, or maybe leave on good terms while accepting that it is over, but again, she does not care.
If you do this, you will make yourself look like a fool, her co-workers will act like you are crazy, stare you down, or even call security on you.
You were not breaking any law, you were not being mean or threatening, you were trying to be respectful and act like a decent human being, but the law is against you.
All a woman has to say is that you are stalking her or harassing her, and with a sham of an investigation you are found guilty.
You can say that you only saw her once, that you did not even get the chance to approach her, but forces are against you.
After loving someone for a year, two years, a decade, it does not matter to women, you will be slapped with a restraining order or even some jail time.
2.
Apologize: You all may of broken up over a small argument, something that could have been easily worked out had you only been given the time.
Even if you were the one that did something wrong, do not apologize.
You may be sincere, you may really want to work things out, but she has already spent the past several hours or days lying to herself.
She repeats things in her mind, she goes to her friends and even her nut family and she starts lying.
She makes up stuff, exaggerates situations beyond belief, says whatever it takes to get them to start repeating her own lies.
That way she hears it from them too.
She does not care how sorry you are or what you had done for her over the past how ever many years.
She has changed.
It is not worth you apologizing.
She has already told herself you are a jerk, nothing you say will change that.
3.
Talk to her friends: You may think that her friends had seen how much you loved her over the years and that they had seen how happy you had made her.
You can explain to them what the little argument was over, you can tell them you love her still and you want to win her back, but guess what, most likely, her friends are bitches.
She has probably already spoken to them and lied to them as well.
She tells them that you were abusive, mean and made her cry.
Their initial thoughts were probably, "that's strange, he always treated her so nice", but that is the beauty of a lie, it changes what people think.
When you ask them to please talk to her so that she may hear you out, instead of being sympathetic or caring, they will intentionally start trying to hurt you.
They will repeat the lie, call you names, and tell you to "get over it.
" And if the friend happens to be a guy, he will be more blunt, and probably has for a while now wanted to steal her from you.
You could have thought these people were the nicest people ever, but the guy that was "like a brother" to her was really wanting her for himself and her girl friends were easily corruptible.
4.
Make any contact: She wants you to call her, text message her, email her, MySpace her, write her and so on.
She just wants to hurt you more by simply refusing to read them.
Do not give her the satisfaction of doing this.
You may think that she is not really doing that, but even the most innocent, sweetest, and even supposedly forgiving Christian girl will do this to you.
5.
Give her all of her stuff back: Unless she serves you papers or takes you to court, I would suggest that you do not give her any of her stuff back that may be at your residence.
Whether it is clothing, jewelry, holiday items, stuff you had planned on giving her soon anyways, electronics, nothing.
If she really wanted it, she would have not left you instantly like a crazy psycho and she would have been respectful and organized when leaving you.
The only reason they leave stuff behind is so that you may feel guilty and try and return it, or you may go to give it to her hoping for a chance to see her and work things out.
The thing is, she is not going to answer, she is going to get someone else to, or make you leave it at the doorstep.
She wants you to feel alone, to see the familiar doorstep that you had held her at so many times.
She wants to hurt you.
Keep it all.
If you really want to give it back, find some rude way to do it.
Do not damage the goods, because even if it is a freakin plastic ring from a vending machine at a grocery store, she will get awarded a huge sum of money from judges when she just like magic all of a sudden wanted it back after not caring for it for years.