BEING ALONE CAN BE LONELY Who wants to be alone? When you are alone and single, it seems that everyone is either married or dating someone.
Who do you go with to special occasions? Troubling thoughts such as these can drive us to ask, "Is it best getting back together with my ex?" It may or may not be the best thing to do, but it just feels better and more secure knowing that there is someone else there to "fall back on" it things get tough.
Sometimes it is difficult to try to figure out whether we truly want the other person back or if we just enjoyed having a comforting duo to be a part of.
FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN Another thing that makes it hard to give up on the idea of getting back together is the unknown.
Who would I date? Where would I find that person? What baggage would they bring to the relationship that would be difficult to deal with? Would the situation be any better than what it was with my ex? To better understand your own particular situation, it would be best for you to honestly deal with these questions: THREE IMPORTANT QUESTIONS 1.
Do you love the other person, and do they feel the same way? If your ex left you for someone else or you left them for someone else, you must ask yourself why.
Something must have been missing.
Don't go back just to have someone to be with.
You will hurt everyone involved.
2.
Do you still have the same problems? Decide for sure the reasons for the break up and then ask yourself, "Is getting back together really the right thing to do?" If you have not dealt with and resolved the problems that caused the break up to begin with, you probably are in for a second painful break up.
Solve your problems first if it is possible.
If it is not possible, do not even entertain the thought of getting back together.
3.
Do you believe that your ex wants you back? This question is a little tricky because it is easy to deceive ourselves into thinking that the other person might want us back because we want it so badly.
If you are contacting them much more than they are contacting you, then stop! You either need to leave them alone longer to think things through, or they do not want to get back together with you as much as you do.
FINAL THOUGHTS If you are getting back together because it just feels better or for comfort, these are the wrong reasons.
If your ex does not want to get back together with you as much or you have unresolved problems, this can only end badly.
If, however, you both sincerely want to work on your problems together and equally want to get back together, then you very possibly might be able to make your relationship work.
A loving relationship where both partners contribute equally is truly one of life's greatest gifts.
It is worth fighting for under the right circumstances.