Dealing with a jealous mate can be very difficult.
Most people who are jealous feel that they have something lacking with in themselves, and they feel a since of inadequacy.
You could tell a person who is jealous that you love them and only them at least 500 times a day; but if that person is consumed with the feeling of being inadequate, they still won't believe you.
To help your mate overcome this issue, you must exercise a considerable amount of patience; and it is important to understand that issues such as this take time to work through.
Because what you are dealing with is a historical perspective.
A historical perspective is a point of view that was acquired before you came into that person's life.
Unfortunately their experiences have brought them to a place of feeling inadequate.
It's almost like the story of "Humpty Dumpty".
When Humpty Dumpty fell off the wall, all of the kings horses and all of the kings men tried to put him back together again, but they couldn't because he was shattered.
Shattered people require a shift in their thought process so that they can be healed.
And no one can put them back together again, unless they help the shattered individual to see themselves from a different perspective.
I remember years ago, I was a jealous individual myself.
And it was very difficult to overcome the feeling of inadequacy.
I always felt as if others were better looking than me, smarter, or more intelligent.
The feeling of inadequacy affected me so badly, that in the beginning of my marriage I was jealous of all the women who held a conversation with my husband.
Fortunately for me, he loved me so much that he prayed me through this situation; and walked with me until I came out of it.
It wasn't easy, because he had to do a lot a reassuring.
This consisted of helping me to see the beauty inside of me; and telling me on a consistent basis what I meant to him.
I also prayed in my private time alone about the situations that occurred in my past to make me feel the way that I felt.
Acknowledging the issues that damaged my perspective of who I was helped me to build a different and better view of myself.
I have heard it said, "Patience is a virtue"; and if you love your mate this is what is required when dealing with a person who is jealous.
Remember, you can't force change, but Humpty Dumpty has to want to put the pieces back together again.