She just broke off with you. Reason… internationally accepted break up reason "It's not you, it's me". But take a step back and really look back at how the relationship was. Maybe she's right. It is not you, it is her. She cannot see the guy of her dreams in you. She cannot see herself growing old with you. She's not as in love with you as she was before. She can't really talk to you anymore. She is already bored of you; it's time for her to move on. So you see, she is right. It is not you, it is her. She can't see these hidden qualities in you yet; qualities that will make her want you back again. You have either forgotten them or have chosen to ignore them. So here's something to help you get your ex-girlfriend to fall in love with you again . Make her realize that you are the one for her.

1) Have some Patience

No doubt, your first instinct is to give her a call and try to reason things out, asking her to reconsider her decision. You'd have sent dozens of SMS, made at least hundreds of unanswered phone calls, left countless messages on her voice mail, even sent her long emails giving her logical reasons why she needs to be with you. DON'T DO THIS!!! This will only push her further away and ruin your chances of ever making her fall in love with you again. Be patient. Step back, give her some space. A month at least. Remember, she left you for a reason. Don't add your impatience to that list of reasons why she needed to leave you. While you are giving her time off from you, do the things that you have always wanted to do but never had the chance. Of course you are still allowed to think about her, but resist the temptation of calling her every day. She will definitely call you, just to find out how you have been doing with her absence from your life. Take this opportunity to tell her that life's been treating you well, that you do miss her and nothing more than that. Let her do the talking and listen to what she's saying. For the next one month, let her be the one to talk about the relationship. If she doesn't, then only talk to her about it after the one month is up. Patience… Woman appreciate that quality in their man. At least they know then that you have the patience to grow old with them, as how you have shown in that one month of waiting.

2) Be a Good Listener

This is one of the hardest thing that a man could ever do when they are with a woman. Listening is not an easy skill to acquire, especially with the one you love. But once you have learnt the art of listening, then your partner will definitely appreciate you more for it. But now she's gone. It's not too late. She will call you, definitely if you practice point #1, just to find out how you have been doing. Take this as an opportunity to listen to what she is saying. And don't just listen, respond to it as well. That way she knows that you are actually listening to her for the first time since forever. And when you are responding to her, don't talk her down. Give an opinion on what you guys have been talking about. That's one of the secret of a good listener. Listen and respond. Presto, you guys are having a conversation. Do take note though that when you are talking to her, don't overdo it. Don't try to prolong the conversation and end it in a positive tone. She will crave more of that wonderful conversation in the future, and you should learn to enjoy it as well. You have shown her that you have that one quality every woman wants in their partner, a good listener.

3) Ooze Confidence

Stand straight, walk tall and be confident. Nothing attracts women like pure confidence. Your ex-girlfriend will see this change in you too. Go out with your buddies, meet people and be confident with yourself. Don't mop around the floor and drag your feet. Don't go on telling new people you meet that you have just been dumped. It is a complete turnoff and nothing destroys confidence than knowing that people are avoiding you. Chances are your ex-girlfriend are out with her friends as well and you guys might just bump into each other. She will definitely see this change in you, this person who exhumes confidence. And when you do bump into her, talk to her briefly, don't immediately ignore people around you. At least she knows that you are not moping over her. And plus, nothing gets into a woman's mind more than being ignored by the boy that she rejected. This will get her interested back in you, and you are on your way of making her your girlfriend again.

4) Kindness Goes a Long Way

She just broke your heart; of course you are furious at her. Not being able to understand the reason why just makes it even harder on you. At this point of your life, snapping at whoever who is close to you will not do you any favour at all, especially if the receiver is your ex girlfriend. There's no need to play the blame game now on who's wrong and who's pushing who away, who said the wrong thing, who made you do the things that you did. Remember, you are trying to make your ex you girlfriend again. Be kind, don't start a fight you will regret later. Remember step #1 and #2. Your act of kindness will leave a lasting impression on your ex and will inadvertently make her think twice of her decision of breaking up with you. After all, kindness goes a long way a leaves an impression like no other else.

There are a lot of self help book out there on how to get back together with your lost love, all of them will help you, if you follow their commandments by heart. I have personally found that the Magic of Making Up is a great guide to get your girl back into your arms again. Of course in the end it entirely depends on you on how badly you want your ex back. Good luck!!!