A break up can do a lot to your confidence and attitude.
You might feel embarrassed, ashamed, scared, angry or confused.
All these emotions weaken your confidence.
With the loss of confidence, all hope goes out the window as well.
In your heart, you may want to get back that relationship because it's the right thing to do and you are not a quitter.
So, it may be that the thought, "How can I get my ex back and my self-esteem?" has crossed your mind.
Keeping your chin up may not be easy after a break up.
The turmoil you feel inside, the confusion, all make it so difficult to function.
You feel like everyone is pointing you out and whispering, making fun of you or worse.
If you let it get you down, it will get you down.
So stop hanging your head.
Lift it up high.
Square those shoulders, keep your back straight and walk with ease and grace.
An outward show of strength will demonstrate to others that you are not beaten, that confidence has not been drained from you.
And what would your ex think if they saw you walk into the room all cool and collected? Don't turn yourself into a mushroom, keeping in the dark and away from others.
Keep a social calendar.
Go out with friends and have a good time.
Laugh, play, do the things that make you happy.
And just think, if your ex could see you now.
That you're not a depressed heap of nothing.
That you can be strong and handle hard knocks in life.
They might begin to think that they made a mistake.
Don't be like those who fall into a deep depression and fail to take care of themselves.
Curled up on the couch in front of the TV with the drapes closed.
Maintain a fresh appearance.
Keep yourself active in the events of the day with your friends.
Show the world and your ex that there is nothing you cannot do.
You will survive and you will stand up and be noticed.
Letting your ex know that you are doing fine, that you are okay and that you are getting on with your life sends signals to your ex that they might not have noticed when you were together.
That you do have a strength and confidence that they thought was not there.
That tough times and tough situations are not too tough for you.
You'd be surprised how many people quit a relationship because they do not see this in their mate.