This article will show you how to deal with break up.
You will learn a lot from this and hopefully be strong enough to live your life.
For the next one week I am going to write articles about break ups and aftermath of it.
I have already posted an article similar to this one few months ago, but this time I would really like to go over detailed steps and things that you need to do after break up occurs.
Break ups are unexpected and surprising.
You can have the person break up with you in person, over the phone or the new kind of break up-usually done over text messenger and finally a break up that is really low class, such as: not telling the person about the break up at all.
They just disappear into the blue moon.
They would shut off contact without giving any kind of valid reasons.
Here is a suggestion to those that do feel like they need to break up with their partner.
Tell it to them in person.
Don't use any of those other methods that I have described above.
If communication failed between both of you and the only solution is to break up and you feel like there is no way both of you could be together, then say it in person.
Unless of course you don't feel safe doing that, then I suggest you break the news over the phone(with a recording tape beside you in case you feel like he might make any threats over the phone).
There is also another kind of break up.
When both people have had enough of each other, they usually break up on good terms for a period of month to few months.
The common goal essentially would be to reunite on new terms and fresh start together.
Usually both partners have learned from their past mistakes and ready to take on a new challenge and fresh start to a beautiful relationship.
I will go over this in detail in my next article.
For now will continue with a break up process.
--After break up, analyze the situation.
You may realize that it may not be entirely your fault or not your fault at all.
If you feel like that break up happened because of something that you did wrong then try to avoid repeating same mistake in your new relationship and believe me, there is always some one else who will probably treat you even better then your other partner.
--Accept your pain.
Cry if you have it.
It is normal.
--Your partner may offer for you to be friends after break up.
Here is a fact: 90 percent of them don't even mean it or have no intention to be friends after break up.
My personal suggestion is don't agree to being friends.
Instead what you need to do is to completely block off all the contact from him.
Do not answer his phone calls, or email, or text message, do not under any circumstances see him or worse have sexual intercourse with him.
--Control your hate for him.
Anger level may depend on break up.
If it was a really bad break up, you might have very high level of hate towards him.
You might feel resentment towards your ex boyfriend for wasting your personal time or any other reasons associated with break up.
Here is my suggestion.
--Get over it and fast.
At this point you have no control of the situation and the longer you have hate inside of you the longer you will suffer emotionally.
You are better than that.
You don't deserve to be unhappy.
In the end, he probably doesn't deserve you anyway.
There hundreds of other men lined up wanting to be with you.
You just need to pick and choose.
--Talk with your friends and family members.
This is very powerful way of getting away from all the negativity of break up.
Go out to the parties and clubs with your friends.
Enjoy and socialize.
--Break up means new beginning.
New life.
Make the best of it.
Move on.
I know it is not easy as said as i make it in this blog but believe me, you need to move on.
It was not your fault and even if it was it doesn't' matter.
Move on and find new love.
--Find happiness in what you have biggest passion for.
If you love to sing, then every day sing your favourite tunes.
Do what you love doing best and that you have passion for.
It is very powerful way of getting your mind off this break up.
--Do not jump right away into new relationship.
Do not try to have sex right away with other men.
This will not solve anything.
Take a break from relationships.
Period.
Instead enjoy time with your friends, family and do things that you have passion for.
--Remember the phrase "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger", or "Everything happens for a reason".
When you are going through hardship and break up, you are actually one step closer to a true happiness because you are getting to know the true inner self.
--Get a pet.
Cute small puppy or a kitten will do just fine.
--Go to movies with your friends and watch a comedy.
Laughter is the best medicine for any kind of illness or heartbreak.