You try and try, but nothing works.
No matter what you say or do, your ex girlfriend doesn't seem interested in talking to or seeing you.
Maybe she's over the relationship, or maybe she's moving on with someone else.
But did you ever stop to consider that your very actions might be causing her to flee? That the approach you're taking is actually making your girlfriend want you less, instead of more? The worst part about trying to get back an ex girlfriend is that you're doing it while under a lot of stress.
The despair and hopelessness that come with a break up aren't easy to get over, but you must keep a clear mind and a level head if you want any chance for reconciliation.
Getting your ex-girlfriend back requires a plan, and that requires rational thinking.
So before you can make a single move to get back together with your ex, you'll need to first get control over your own situation.
Below are some of the biggest reasons your ex girlfriend won't take you back.
Read them carefully, and see which offenses you may be inadvertently committing: You're Still In Denial About The Break Up When you first get dumped, it's a natural reaction to fight it.
You'll try to change your ex's mind, and get her to reverse her decision to end things.
But if it's weeks or months later and you're still doing this? That means you haven't even accepted the break up - one of the first steps necessary to getting your ex back.
How can you start planning to win back your girlfriend if you're still in denial about breaking up? You can't.
Which is why you not only need to accept what happened, but let your ex know that you've come to terms with the relationship finally being over.
You're Contacting Her Too Much Hands down, it's the single biggest mistake most guys make: excessively contacting your ex girlfriend.
After she breaks things off, one of the best things to do is not contact your ex at all.
Giving her time and space will also give her the chance to see what she's missing.
This will make her think about and miss you ten times more than if you were constantly contacting your ex to talk to her.
The problem is that most guys think the reverse is true.
They believe that by staying in touch, they can still hang on.
By keeping in plain sight, their ex will still think about them.
These guys are reluctant to let go, because doing so is like admitting that it's over.
This isn't true of course, but it's what they think and feel.
If you really want to date her again, don't be one of these guys.
Getting obsessively contacted by phone, email, text-message or other means is one of the top reasons your ex girlfriend won't take you back.
You Still Haven't Moved On Nothing's more pathetic than a guy sitting around "waiting" for his ex girlfriend to come back to him.
Whether you think your relationship is just on a break, or that eventually she'll come to her senses...
the desperation is just plain pitiful.
Your ex will look at you and immediately know if you haven't taken a single step forward into a new life of your own, and she's going to lose all the respect she has for you if you haven't.
This respect is a necessary part of getting her back, so losing it is a very big deal.
Suck it up, accept things for what they are, and start moving on.
This doesn't mean you have to jump right back into dating someone else (although that shouldn't be off limits, by the way), but it does mean going out, having fun, and meeting new people.
Grab your friends and hit some of the old places you used to have fun together.
Leave the house, and be social.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and have a blast.
All of these things will make you so much more attractive to an ex girlfriend, because she'll see you have an independent spirit.
No girl wants to take back a sorry mess of a shut-in ex boyfriend.