Do you know why men don't see you in "that way?" Because you're just too "lovely.
" And no, it's not wrong to be lovely girl.
Okay, first let's begin with the definition of the word "Lovely.
" Some examples of "Lovely" is when the guy asks you where you want to go and you respond by saying 'I'll go where you want to go.
" Or when you just nod your head and say YES to everything the guy says.
The problem with being too lovely is that men are NOT ATTRACTED to women that are too lovely.
You can argue with me by saying that most guys want their women to be submissive.
They want their women to follow whatever they say and follow whatever decision they make without voicing out her opinion...
This maybe true for a minority of men, but most often than not, men want someone that can CHALLENGE them.
Someone who actually has a brain and who can hold a conversation.
Another problem that a lot of women also have is that they turn into "lovely" little girls after a period of time.
Initially they start off as someone who is fun, unpredictable and challenging...
Then, slowly and steadily they turn into this almost robotic really "lovely" girl after a period of time.
When this happens, attraction simply just slips away.
He'll feel as though he is surrounded by oceans of boredom.
He'll probably start telling his friends "You know what? She's just my ideal woman.
She's beautiful, she's caring, she's sweet, she's so easy to love.
It's just that...
I'm BORED.
" Reality sucks doesn't it? Once the woman end up being too damn "lovely" for her own good, the usual ending is the man leaving and the woman sitting at a curb wondering what the heck she did wrong.
So how do you AVOID being too "lovely"? Simple, be ASSERTIVE.
Being assertive doesn't necessarily mean that you have to get in someone's face like an umbrella wielding Britney Spears screaming and swearing to get what you want.
That is hostility and violent behaviour.
You'll probably just make him run the other way faster than you can say " Oops, I did it again!" Men want assertive women, not AGGRESSIVE or violent.
Too strong or too aggressive is a major turn-off so don't even go there.
Yes, a man will not get or stay attracted to a woman who is always looking vulnerable and asking for help - but he also won't get or stay attracted to a woman who comes off too strong either.
Therefore you must strike a balance wherein you can come to a healthy compromise within yourself.
Keep in mind that although men want their women to be assertive, they also want to feel NEEDED as well.
He would still want to feel that he has room in your life.