Men don't respond to words, they respond to distance. Men fall in love in your absence, not your presence. It's when a man can't stop thinking about you that his wheels start spinning. If you are talking and seeing him, he won't really be thinking about you in a productive manner.

You may be thinking if I want him back, I should be his friend. This does not work and if you are doing this, you are killing your chances. Let me explain. He dumped you correct? This is like him saying "Hey, I know I offered you prime rib, but it turns out I only have hamburger, will that do?". No it won't do. If you accept the hamburger, you just settled for less than what you desire. You also told him with your actions that it's fine with you to give you less. Is it? You want more correct?

So the starting point in getting your boyfriend back is to go into no contact. This will help you clear your head and emotions so you can be logical and deal with this in ways that are effective. When you are in contact with the man that dumped you, it keeps the emotions churning. Decisions made from a place of emotion can never be trusted, not when it comes to getting your boyfriend back. When you act out of emotions, this is when the fatal mistakes are made. Don't do it. You will regret it I promise.

If he contact you with a text for example just asking how your are or something else non committing, you may feel it's rude to not reply. Those lame texts are just him checking to see if you are still there, it doesn't mean he is thinking of getting back together yet. Look at it like this, he just tossed you a crumb, and you actually just bent over to pick it up. When it comes to getting him back, bending over to pick up crumbs does not show you in an attractive light at all.

No contact also gives him time to miss you. If you to want to get back together with him, he is going to have to miss you. If you are still his friend and still are talking to him, he is not missing you. It can takes weeks or months for a man to feel the loss of you. They don't deal with break ups the same way we do. They tend to push it aside and address it later.