After a break up, there is a cold, scary and lonely period that shakes your entire world to its core.
The words revolving round and round your head, "I want him back.
" distract you from the world around you.
You don't know what to do with the time you once spent with him.
There's a huge part of you that left with him as he walked out the door.
If toy can't stop thinking I miss " my ex boyfriend," I've got the cure to help you get past this pain and distraction.
Two Step Plan •The first is closure, (this is cold but true) it feels like a loss as great as death and its okay to treat it as such for now.
•Consider your ex to be gone for good and out of your reach.
•You must now begin the next phase of your life; this is the first day of the rest of your life.
Closure is a period of ending a phase of in one's life.
Most importantly, you have got to face the fact that he doesn't want you back.
Hanging on and thinking there may be a chance you can get back together will only make it worse and prevent healing.
To promote and encourage healing, gather up and return all of his physical belongings in your possession.
Don't keep a thing, don't keep his toothbrush, t-shirts, hats, sun glasses or anything, return it all.
This helps with acceptance and closure.
If you have things at his place, pick them up when you drop his off.
After this he may naturally feel the urge to contact you just to see if he still has you on the hook.
It will mean little more so don't take his calls, text or emails.
Simply ignore it, responding will put you in a vulnerable and potentially embarrassing position.
It's possible that you can be friends in the future, but not now! You need time to secure your emotions and separate your emotional connection with your ex.
This takes time and there is no human who can accelerate this process so allow the needed space and time to regain your balance and get back on your feet.
You must do this to level the playing field and prevent any embarrassment or smudges on your character.
Any time you find yourself once again thinking "I miss my ex boyfriend," write down your feelings and read them back to yourself, remember that he left you and you must deal with these feelings.
This process will help you to be realistic and balance your emotions.
You may also write a letter to him spilling your guts about the relationship and the way he broke up with you.
But DO NOT send it to him.
Rip it up, drown it in a sink of water, burn it! Just destroy it in any way that feels empowering to you.
This will help you bring fuller and a more complete closure to this chapter in the break up.
It 's now the time to put yourself out there again.
There is no better way to inspire yourself to be looking fine and at your best than the thought of starting over with new and better prospects.
So, go ahead, primp and prime until you shine with the true perfection that is you! You go girl! The sooner the better and before you know it you will meet some new and amazing men helping you to realize the break up was a good thing and you should count yourself lucky for being free to this new lease on life.
Secure Future Success In LOVE •We land ourselves in one relationship after another that fails due to our lack of relationship skills.
•Educate yourself as to how to surround yourself with good and stable men.
•Learn how the opposite sex thinks, operates and loves.
•Build sound and successful relationship skills to insure future success and happiness.
•Learn to the tips and skills needed to avoid future break ups, divorce and lovers rejection.