No one, I don't care who you are or how tough you think you are, no one feels good about a break up of a relationship.
Your confidence is shattered, your ego is bruised and, quite frankly, your feelings are hurt.
Most of the time we are taught to move on, get over it, even try to get revenge or make your ex jealous.
But what advice do you give to those who still love and want to be with their ex? Would the same advice work, when someone asks, "How do I get my ex back?" Maybe the revenge and jealously ploys come about due to a misunderstanding.
Maybe, instead of hearing, "how do I get my ex back?", the advice giver has heard "how do I get back at my ex?" But if you still love your ex, why would you want to make them jealous or hateful towards you? There is no need for these tactics.
There is still hope for those who ask "how do I get my ex back?" Contrary to popular critical beliefs which state that once a relationship has been broken up, that it is permanently disabled and nonfixable, the opposite is true.
Sure, lots could have happened to seemingly destroy your relationship, whether with a boyfriend/girlfriend or a spouse, by whatever gave your significant other the urging to walk out on you, isn't a permanent reason.
While there are certain things that are permanent, the vast majority of couple-splitters are reversible.
While sometimes you need outside help to answer the question of "how do I get my ex back?", much can be done by fixing the flaws within yourself first.
The biggest problem is when people go after their ex almost immediately.
That would be like throwing flammable liquid into the fire to try to extinguish it.
Back off at first, give your ex some breathing room, some time to think.
Spend this time to do some thinking of your own.
But don't be like most people and dwell on the other person and all of their faults, as this leads to the blame game, which always ends on a bad note.
Instead, find out where in the relationship you went wrong, and you alone.
Leave your ex out of the picture, because you can only fix you.
The next biggest problem is that people tend to focus on how the other person has behaved, and why their flaws broke up the relationship, rather than looking inward to what the individual could have done to cause problems.
During relationships, where one person tries to get the other person to change into someone one the other person is not, will only lead to failure and heartbreak, and to the question that doesn't need to be asked if this one trait is eliminated, the question "how do I get my ex back?" That question would not need to be asked, because if you don't try to get the other to change, there would be no reason to split.