If you find yourself saddened as a result of your ex-boyfriend breaking up with you, do not lose heart. Within a very short time, you can learn how to get your ex-boyfriend back without driving him away.

Before you embark on your journey to getting back with your ex-boyfriend, there are four important questions that you must ask yourself. Are the problems that caused the breakup of your relationship to occur worth all of the attention they are receiving at present? Are these problems worth arguing over? Is the arguing going to change anything, or is it just better to stop arguing and move on? Do the present problems warrant an argument? If you have answered "no" to any of these questions, then it is best to just stop the arguing, find a civilized way to resolve the problems, make up, and move on. It is amazing how many big arguments just don't even need to occur in the first place. The issues may even be small enough that you can just let them go. If that is the case, then you are really in business. It is going to be a bit easier to get your ex-boyfriend back.

Another step that you can take when trying to get your ex-boyfriend back is to stop wasting so much time being concerned about how others see you. Instead, you need to focus on how your ex-boyfriend perceives you, and work on being yourself. If there are any aspects of your character that you need to change to make yourself more appealing to your ex-boyfriend, now is a good time to start making those changes.

Something else you must do is to emotionally distance yourself from your ex-boyfriend and your past relationship. Doing this will not only enable the both of you to clear your heads in order to better reflect on matters, he will have time to miss you. During this time, do not contact him at all. This means that you do not email him, text him, write to him via snail mail, or call him. It is best that you let him initiate contact with you. However, if enough time has passed and it should be a substantial amount of time, you can briefly contact him to see how he is doing. Be sure you do this in a caring fashion. And remember, when you call him, keep your emotions in check, and do not act desperate at all. Failure to adhere to this will cause him to turn away from you even more, which is not what you want.

When enough time has passed and both of you have clear heads, then the two of you can analyze the relationship and the problems that caused the split to occur. After the analysis process, you can both work together to find a good solution.

Most relationships can be rekindled. Rekindling a relationship does, however, require patience, effort, and perseverance. Nobody ever said that rekindling a relationship would be easy, but it is definitely possible.