Of course, it is within the realm of possibility. But in our era of "instant everything", we're conditioned by every aspect of our everyday life to expect no effort, pre-packaged solutions for every difficulty.

But resolving involved emotional problems is not a microwave meal. As a result, there will be no favorable result if you follow this course of action.

Nonetheless,Long term joy,for both partners can be acheived. In this commentary I'm going to break down how you can progress to survive your affair. And lift your emotional connection to the next plateau.

To begin with, it's important to understand that the impact of the affair can be just as problematic for the cheater as for the faithful.

They will be burdened with the guilt and remorse of the unfaithfulness the remainder of their lives.

Because of that fact, it's essential that the other partner gives the adulterous partner some compassion and understanding.

This is crucial if the mutual program is to restore the emotional intimacy.

Following on, the partner cheated on needs to leave the machochistic gratification of "victim conciousness." Yes, you were deceived. Yes, your trust was taken advantage of. Yes, you were lied to.

The important word in this instance is "were." As in "in the past."

Regurgitating your depression isn't going to make the past disappear, or the coming days sunny and carefree.

It's "emotional quicksand," The more you struggle, the greater the depth to which you sink.Consequently, at the end of the day you're completely stuck. Don't swim in the quicksand.

If you're with me so far, the third consideration is the crucial question :
"Is continuing the relationship important to both of you?"
If the answer is "a positive one", in addition to compassion, honesty should be be included in the "success recipie."

However even this will be insufficient to ensure success without communication.

Yes, of course you understand the crucial nature of getting through to one another clearly in surviving your affair.

Even with taking that all on board, still what most partners suffering through an affair fail to grasp are two unavoidable realities:

One,you must be on the same page with your definitions to eliminate misunderstanding.

Obviously you can't expect to make any progress if your idea of the meanings of the words used to communicate are not the same.

Following on, non-verbal communication in many case sends more powerful messages. Keeping that in mind, you need to be aware of the normally unconcious gestures and facial expressions you use.

You need to ensure to the best of your ability, that these ""emotional telegraphs" are the ones you intended to send. The variety that donate complimentary positivity to your verbal communication.

Summing up, I need to impress upon you the absolute-no exceptions necessity that the cheating partner completely finish all contact with the former partner in the affair.When I say completely, I mean Completely - with a capital "C."

If the adulterous partner is truly sincere in their desire to restore your love connection and take it to a new and improved level,this won't be a stumbling block.

If your reality is exactly opposite to this,it's time to pack your bags.

Hopefully,this won't be your scenario. Naturally I'm hoping,what I've shared with you will enable you move forward with confidence on the journey to surviving your affair.