Breaking up is usually very difficult.
No matter how bad the relationship seems to be, losing it often seems much worse.
Many people try to overcome their new, "suddenly single," status by diving into social activities.
The rush from one party to the next, trying to act as though the relationship really wasn't all that important anyway.
When invitations to activities run low, they join clubs or grab hold of a new hobby.
Unfortunately, nothing seems to take the place of what they have lost, Other people mope and cry after a breakup, and then mope and cry some more.
We've all met this type of individual-and maybe even been like that ourselves.
No matter how busy they get, or where they are, all they can think about is the person that used to fill a now-gaping hole in their lives.
This may go on for a few weeks, months, or even years, depending on the person involved and how involved the relationship was.
Some jump into another relationship, hoping that the new person in their life will help them forget the old one.
This may work for a while, but the chances are that the new relationship will soon disappear and the person involved will once again have to cope with adjusting to being alone.
Lately, I've noticed another way people are dealing with the loss of a relationship.
They decide not to give up without a fight.
Not a literal fight, of course.
But a determined effort to restore the relationship to what it was at the beginning and what it should have continued to be before all the arguments brought it to an end.
These people first step back and take a good look at the relationship to decide whether it is worth saving? Most relationships are, and if even one of the partners thinks it is, they should go for it.
Of course mistakes were made, and, if the person who wants to restore the relationship is willing to take responsibility for his or her own part in those mistakes the couple is already a long way towards reconciliation.
Then they take it slowly.
Rushing to a former partner on bended knee may work temporarily, but if the underlying problems are still there, a reconciliation won't last long.
Where they go from there may be handled in various ways.
They may decide to start from scratch, going back to a "first-date" relationship.
They may prefer trying again for a trial period of a month, three months, etc.
They may decide to seek outside help from a class or counselor.
What about you? If your relationship is troubled or even been dissolved, why not be that person who refuses to give up until every possibility of restoring it has been exhausted?