Regardless of whether it's your decision, the other party's or a mutual decision, breaking up with someone you love and adore may be one of the hardest decisions you will ever have to come up with in a relationship.
Some time after the break up, it is common for people to feel that they want their ex back and if you are reading this article, it means you are one of those people.
Sure, you just realized you want your ex back, but hey, don't chase after them.
This is one tip that applies to everyone who wants their ex lover back.
Never chase your ex and bombard him with phone calls, text messages and emails saying you want him back.
Keeping in touch is different from chasing.
Just because you realized you want them back doesn't mean they feel the same or that they have also realized the same.
Give them enough time to think it through.
Never pressure your ex to make the decision of getting back and rekindle your past relationship.
Rushing and forcing them to make a decision quickly won't do you any good either.
If you really want your ex back, be patient and wait for their decision and whatever the decision may be, respect it.
Even if you know the memory of your break up always hurts.
keep in touch.
Again, keeping in touch is different from chasing them.
If you are not comfortable with talking to them on the phone or in person then do it through SMS and emails.
Talk about the good things you've shared when you were still together.
Reminisce about the memories you've spent happily with each other.
This way, you are able to signal to your ex that even after all the hurt and the pain, there is still a way back.
While you're planning on how to get your ex back, do something for yourself.
Give yourself a make-over, treat yourself to something nice, and give yourself some leisure time.
One probable reason why the break-up happened could be that you lost that one thing which your ex found in you that truly made you special to their eyes.
All those years of being with them may have made you more like them and less like the real you.
This will not only let you find the old you, it will also make you feel much better and much more confident about yourself.
Showing that you can take care of yourself gives the signal that you are capable and ready to take care of other people as well.
After all, people who are in a relationship want to be taken care of by their partners, right? There are lots of other things you can do to get your ex back, some you have to do for yourself and others you have to do for them.
Just remember that before sending out signals of wanting to get back together with your ex, examine yourself and what you feel thoroughly.
Probe yourself and make an honest decision.
If you see no valid reason to get your ex back aside from the fact that you just feel like it, then don't.
Remember that some relationships are better left unfixed.
However, if you feel that what you had with your ex was something that could last a lifetime and the reason for the break up was something you can fix, then go ahead and try your best to fix it with him.
Who knows, it might be true love.